Comments on: Who would u rather marry? http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/ One Muslimah's Travelogue of Life Wed, 16 May 2012 04:02:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Zawaj.com http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-28654 Zawaj.com Mon, 17 Mar 2008 21:35:54 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-28654 Well, I'm married and I love her and Insha'Allah she loves me... but just hypothetically, to answer your question, I would rather marry someone who loves me. Why? Well, to marry someone I love, and she does not return my love, would be never-ending torment. It's too pathetic. My pride would not allow it. I would always know that my feelings were not returned and it would always hurt. On the other hand, if she loves me (and I must at least respect her and find her attractive, even if I don't love her), I can treat her with kindness and respect, and I think I could be happy. Also, men fall in love easier than women, so most likely I would come to love her soon enough. Well, I’m married and I love her and Insha’Allah she loves me… but just hypothetically, to answer your question, I would rather marry someone who loves me. Why? Well, to marry someone I love, and she does not return my love, would be never-ending torment. It’s too pathetic. My pride would not allow it. I would always know that my feelings were not returned and it would always hurt.

On the other hand, if she loves me (and I must at least respect her and find her attractive, even if I don’t love her), I can treat her with kindness and respect, and I think I could be happy. Also, men fall in love easier than women, so most likely I would come to love her soon enough.

]]> By: sister http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-25979 sister Wed, 09 Jan 2008 19:50:52 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-25979 the link was not working so i want to know what were the thoughts! the link was not working so i want to know what were the thoughts!

]]> By: Layla http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-16407 Layla Sat, 21 Jul 2007 20:38:22 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-16407 lol...dz a gd Q...ne way...i wld choose sme 1 who loved me bt i didnt so he cn show me hiz love.... lol…dz a gd Q…ne way…i wld choose sme 1 who loved me bt i didnt so he cn show me hiz love….

]]> By: jannah http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-2251 jannah Fri, 09 Mar 2007 21:16:38 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-2251 walaikum salaam hadil, your message made me smile... thanx for writing... i just listened to ahmed bukhatir's 'al quds tunadina' recently... so heartbreaking. may Allah make it easier for you all. ws walaikum salaam hadil,

your message made me smile… thanx for writing… i just listened to ahmed bukhatir’s ‘al quds tunadina’ recently… so heartbreaking. may Allah make it easier for you all.

ws

]]> By: Hadil http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-2250 Hadil Fri, 09 Mar 2007 19:58:50 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-2250 Salamon Alaikom, This reply comes all the way from Occupied Ramallah, Palestine! Well, i'd say i'd rather marry a guy who loved me and not necessarily me loving him. (I am married and we are both head-over heals in love with each other, as far as i know! lol). My philosophy is: We, arab women, are in general extremely faithful to house and husband. We tend to give our 100.5%, whether in love or not. But men are not romance experts in the first place, so if he's not in love with me.. then gosh! i'd have to do double the work: house, kids, work AND romance? So let him love me, i'll grow to love him as our relationship grows stronger through time and shared experiences. Flaming love dies with time, it's the deeper emotion of respect and mutual understanding that grows stronger and never dies. As the Almighty said "and we created between them adoration and compassion". Allah swt did not say 'we created love', since it is the more tender emotion of adoration and the true feeling of compassion that lasts. PS: i read the post with the tooth fairy. You guys are mean! i am a dentist! and i am a nice person! come to Palestine, (if the Israelis let you in!) and i'll get you a great root canal filling. You'll pay around 250$ for the whole lot... and please everybody: brush and floss DAILY. Mouthwashes are not essential if you give your teeth a good scrub. Many warm salams, Hadil Salamon Alaikom,

This reply comes all the way from Occupied Ramallah, Palestine!

Well, i’d say i’d rather marry a guy who loved me and not necessarily me loving him. (I am married and we are both head-over heals in love with each other, as far as i know! lol).

My philosophy is:
We, arab women, are in general extremely faithful to house and husband. We tend to give our 100.5%, whether in love or not. But men are not romance experts in the first place, so if he’s not in love with me.. then gosh! i’d have to do double the work: house, kids, work AND romance?

So let him love me, i’ll grow to love him as our relationship grows stronger through time and shared experiences.

Flaming love dies with time, it’s the deeper emotion of respect and mutual understanding that grows stronger and never dies.

As the Almighty said “and we created between them adoration and compassion”. Allah swt did not say ‘we created love’, since it is the more tender emotion of adoration and the true feeling of compassion that lasts.

PS: i read the post with the tooth fairy. You guys are mean! i am a dentist! and i am a nice person! come to Palestine, (if the Israelis let you in!) and i’ll get you a great root canal filling. You’ll pay around 250$ for the whole lot…
and please everybody: brush and floss DAILY. Mouthwashes are not essential if you give your teeth a good scrub.

Many warm salams,
Hadil

]]> By: jannah http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-329 jannah Fri, 26 Jan 2007 01:44:42 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-329 look at the dates... this was posted a week ago... a week's a long time!!! there are only TWO choices to the question, u can't say none or both or something else...;) also post in the thread on the board cuz it was moved to the board...no comments here...!! :) ws look at the dates… this was posted a week ago… a week’s a long time!!! there are only TWO choices to the question, u can’t say none or both or something else…;) also post in the thread on the board cuz it was moved to the board…no comments here…!! :) ws

]]> By: Adilah http://jannah.org/blog/2007/01/18/who-would-u-rather-marry/comment-page-1/#comment-328 Adilah Fri, 26 Jan 2007 01:25:52 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/archives/80#comment-328 hahahaha this is your philosophical 2am question?...you said your sick of love ...but based on this question maybe you really need to be at Lovenotes :p. and in answer to your question....neither i rather be single then married to someone who dosent love me or vice versa duh! hahahaha this is your philosophical 2am question?…you said your sick of love …but based on this question maybe you really need to be at Lovenotes :p. and in answer to your question….neither i rather be single then married to someone who dosent love me or vice versa duh!

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