Road to Jannah

Things that annoy & frustrate me & a few things I luv.

Things that annoy & frustrate me:

-Every aunty at every wedding that says “Ohhh don’t worry YOU’RE NEXT! I’m making Dua for you”. Yes, apparently it’s worked, hasn’t it!

- PDA… on Facebook…. get a room!! Haramness… on Facebook. Almost everything about Facebook. Add to that Myspace, Twitter and anything else that’s a “new and improved” way of “social communication”.

- That we as an Ummah cannot unite on a simple methodology for moonsighting.

- Guys who are looking for perfection, who then marry very empty headed trophy wives. Perfection indeed!

-That nothing in our community is ever advertised properly. Sometimes you hear about something the day before. Sometimes you never hear about it. Sometimes something is advertised at Jumah or at a specific Mosque’s Jumah. Sometimes it’s advertised only on Facebook. Can’t we start planning ahead and try to reach out a little more?

- Chauvinistic FOBS who think they know women/relationships/what they’re talking about.

- New people who come to the community and you’re extra nice to them to be their friend, and then they find some other group of friends and you never see them again!

- Cultural traditions that are being mixed up with Islam. Cultural parties. Indians inviting Indians, Pakistanis inviting Paks, Arabs inviting Arabs. Yes, and they all live in America.

- Elders in the community that refuse to let go of their “leadership” power.

- My car when it breaks down and let’s add to that when I try to get it fixed, cheating mechanics.

- So called “experts” on Islam, who are really Islam-haters, being interviewed on every news channel with their “best-selling books on Islam(bashing)”.

- People who think they know me because they read my posts on my website/blog.

- Guys who when angered get personal and insult the other person in a way they think will hurt the most. Guys who use Hadith to insult a woman/women (usually when angry or they don’t have a response/valid argument). Guys trying to prove an “Islamic point” who resort to swearing and calling you names. (I run a website so I’ve encountered all of these )

Things I luv:

- Enlightened men, especially if they’re scholars like Sh. Mokhtar and Imam Hamza and Abdullah Adhami.

- Dark chocolate on strawberries, gulab jamun at weddings, ras malai at iftars, chocolate fountains, Lindt truffles, fresh biryani right after qurbani, soft vanilla ice cream in july, samosas of all kinds and possibly anything yummy anytime.

- Ma babies (niece and nephews: Meriyumyum, Hamza & Iboo)

- Spending time together with friends on couches with food.

- When white people compliment you on your Hijab.

- Listening to an awesome motivational lecture in front of a packed house at ISNA on Saturday night.

- English breakfast tea or green tea Chai (the one with the Taj Mahal on front)

- Walking in woods with only the canopy of trees and green above you.

- When my kitty meows meows meows and I pick her up and she’s happy.

- Books and movies set in the 1800s aka the Jane Austen era.

- Connecting with Allah in your prayer.

- Forgetting you’re an adult and having fun with the kids like you’re one of them.

- Curling up in bed and reading a new exciting book on a rainy day.

- Listening to sad songs/reading sad poetry when upset.

- Married guys who are nice and funny and good husbands/dads – gives me hope.

- Cute stories about Rasulullah saw or the Sahabah/Sahabiyat.

- People who try to hook you up even if it doesn’t work out.

- Visiting an exotic and old foreign city and just walking around, ie Damascus, Cairo, Madinah… New York.

- Shopping when I have Eidi $$.

How about yours?…….luvs & hates?