Comments on: Food for Thought (special guest blog by Adilah AM) http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/01/food-for-thought-special-guest-blog/ A Single Muslimah's Musings Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:10:01 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: jannah http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/01/food-for-thought-special-guest-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-85533 jannah Sat, 16 May 2009 04:02:39 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/?p=470#comment-85533 Adilah S.K. was referring to hsyed who said he was a feminist in his comment above^. Social status doesn't necessarily mean the guy is a go getter. He could have just been born into a certain family, been blessed randomly or been born with a silver spoon. It doesn't always link to being an "ambitious person". Furthermore sometimes we should be careful about people who are "too ambitious". There is a reason we were put on the earth and it isn't to earn social status. I don't look for a guy who has social status and neither do any of my friends. They are looking for a decent guy who is a good Muslim, who has a good personality and is compatible with them. Income is not a big deal. And a few of them do make a little more than their husbands but no one thinks bad of them and I doubt very much she finds him less attractive because of it. Reputation has no causal link to real life except speculation. Many people have "bad repuations" because of wack cultural ideas. And some people have "good reputations" when they are just wrong. People should stop judging each other and like you said leave it to Allah because only He Knows everything. Adilah S.K. was referring to hsyed who said he was a feminist in his comment above^.

Social status doesn’t necessarily mean the guy is a go getter. He could have just been born into a certain family, been blessed randomly or been born with a silver spoon. It doesn’t always link to being an “ambitious person”. Furthermore sometimes we should be careful about people who are “too ambitious”. There is a reason we were put on the earth and it isn’t to earn social status.

I don’t look for a guy who has social status and neither do any of my friends. They are looking for a decent guy who is a good Muslim, who has a good personality and is compatible with them. Income is not a big deal. And a few of them do make a little more than their husbands but no one thinks bad of them and I doubt very much she finds him less attractive because of it.

Reputation has no causal link to real life except speculation. Many people have “bad repuations” because of wack cultural ideas. And some people have “good reputations” when they are just wrong. People should stop judging each other and like you said leave it to Allah because only He Knows everything.

]]> By: Siham http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/01/food-for-thought-special-guest-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-85530 Siham Fri, 15 May 2009 15:15:15 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/?p=470#comment-85530 Well, I think it's only natural for a woman to look for a man who has social status, which basically indicates that he's a go-getter! So if the man has smaller income than his wife, not only will everyone else see him as the one with a smaller income. But his wife will see him as less attractive. About reputation; I mean, it is what it is...if you slip then you simply pay the prize. Whether people judge you or not, it's irrelevant cos Allah is always there watching. Well, I think it’s only natural for a woman to look for a man who has social status, which basically indicates that he’s a go-getter! So if the man has smaller income than his wife, not only will everyone else see him as the one with a smaller income. But his wife will see him as less attractive.

About reputation; I mean, it is what it is…if you slip then you simply pay the prize. Whether people judge you or not, it’s irrelevant cos Allah is always there watching.

]]> By: Adilah http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/01/food-for-thought-special-guest-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-85524 Adilah Fri, 15 May 2009 12:45:41 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/?p=470#comment-85524 I dont remember calling myself a feminist.... I dont remember calling myself a feminist….

]]> By: jannah http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/01/food-for-thought-special-guest-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-85491 jannah Thu, 07 May 2009 05:34:34 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/?p=470#comment-85491 I think marriage is important and beautiful, and indeed a trial hence half of our deen. But in our day and age it's become something else. Almost the be all and end all. Sisters are chosen like brood horses. That is all they live for and who you marry defines everything in your life. Where is the self-development in these young girls. I've seen it myself and there is none. What about widows, divorced women, older women with grown up kids, women who never marry, younger girls...it's like they don't exist in our society. Anyone who bucks the trend like this post illustrates and says wait why is marriage the be all and end all?, what about everything else in the world? why do i have to wait for marriage to be someone or do something? is taken as strange and "going against the sunnah" or haram or whatever else. I think marriage is important and beautiful, and indeed a trial hence half of our deen. But in our day and age it’s become something else. Almost the be all and end all. Sisters are chosen like brood horses. That is all they live for and who you marry defines everything in your life. Where is the self-development in these young girls. I’ve seen it myself and there is none. What about widows, divorced women, older women with grown up kids, women who never marry, younger girls…it’s like they don’t exist in our society.

Anyone who bucks the trend like this post illustrates and says wait why is marriage the be all and end all?, what about everything else in the world? why do i have to wait for marriage to be someone or do something? is taken as strange and “going against the sunnah” or haram or whatever else.

]]> By: s.k. http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/01/food-for-thought-special-guest-blog/comment-page-1/#comment-85490 s.k. Thu, 07 May 2009 01:05:09 +0000 http://jannah.org/blog/?p=470#comment-85490 Correction: al-Hassib should be replaced with: - al-Ghani: The Self-Sufficient and - al-Kaafi: The Sufficer Correction:
al-Hassib should be replaced with:
- al-Ghani: The Self-Sufficient
and
- al-Kaafi: The Sufficer

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