Hi Jannah,you can also call me Bea(don’t get confused! ^_^) I’m 14 years old, and I totally loved your blog posts from the moment I saw those cute cartoons of girls wearing hijaab.

I like your approach on giving advice, I just hope there are lots of more young girls like me who open thir minds to this kind of stuff.

In fact, I’m sort of llike going through your tracks in trying to let my friends understand the wrong things they’re starting to do.

You know what, I totally want a friend like YOU. I just hope you have time, if you know what I mean, your managing so much at the time!

I hope Allaah (swt) blesses you and continues to give you the opportunity to continue what your doing, I love you my sister in Islam!

Jazzakillahu Khayran! ^_^

Excellent Post. This is my first time visiting the site. Alot of down to earth advice on whats to come. May Allah(swt) bless your efforts to help younger Muslim women like myself. Looking forward to more of your writing!

JazakAllah Khair,
Wasalam Alaikum!

The best advice I heard regarding this came from Br. Nouman Ali Khan, who said that when girls are talking to non-mahram guys, they should make their tone sound almost angry. There would be absolutely no room for misinterpreting a girls’ intention if she removes any sweetness from her manner and replaces it with an abrupt, forceful, and business-like one. It would also serve as a check for the girl to not let herself slip into a flirty mode either. I think guys can benefit and apply this to themselves as well.

The responsibility is there on both sides, male and female. But when Allah has created almost every aspect of a women inside and out attractive to men, we need to take extra care to safeguard our hearts and our honor.

I interpretted “befriend your parents” to mean talk to them frequently. Of coarse, they’ll always be your parents, but its so much easier to deal with issues like marraige if your already confortable talking to them. Ex. Your parents should NOT be having revelatons about your personality when your ready to get married.
Allhamdullilah, I began talking to my mom frequently (conversations not unlike those which I have my freinds) pretty early on and I find that it is so helpful. If anything goes wrong or if there is something I want, it doesn’t come as a shock to her. Believe me, this is not such a far fetched concept. Parents really want this relationship with their kids.

In the above scenarios, I feel like the son did not know pior what his parents did and did not want. If he had built this relationship in the first place, then he would have had a better idea what his parents were very much against. Going back to accepting our parents as people: its easy for us to point fingers at them while we pat ourselves on the back. Their notions and ideologies were not conjured from nothing, and it is important that we really understand where they come from. If you an see why they think what they do, even if you do not agree with them, you can communicate better.

Keep in mind, although we are in the new generation, all these issues are still reoccurent; our parents may have very well went through similar stuations. (One of my favorite quotes from some poster I saw in school : “You can’t make all the mistakes yourself; learn from others.”)

MashAllah, this was a very enjoyable post. I was disappointed when it ended .