Road to Jannah

salam, so lots of bros ask me this so i decided to write a post to help them out.

Why is Pride and Prejudice so fascinating?

ok brothers let me ’splain u …….. (as azhar usman says :-/ )

*spoilers*

basically the story is about a family of 5 girls set around 19th century england. so the mother is of course desperately trying to marry them off. two really wealthy guys *just happen to* show up in their neighborhood. so the first one falls in love with the eldest girl, and the other one at first does not like the second sister but over the course of the movie ends up falling in love with her and she with him. and there’s some sub-plots and some adventures but thats basically what its about

so why do girls love it?

• - every muslim girl has a mother who desperately wants to marry her off
• - who wouldn’t want a rich, intelligent guy to fall in love with her
• - who hasn’t had a proposal from a freak cousin/mr. collins type
• - we all want to wear the pretty dresses in the movie
• - who hasn’t been brushed off by some guy cause they are at first ‘not pretty enough’
• - and of course who doesn’t love a happy ending

so i hope you now understand.

and don’t be jealous of mr darcy… for you married brothers i’m sure for your wives you are the mr darcy!!

Now let me ’splain u why Mr. darcy is so special:

when he first meets elizabeth he thinks she is plain (an 18th century word for not pretty) and beneath him in terms of rank and family, so he completely disses her. over the course of the book/movie he starts to learn more about her and he realizes that she is witty, intelligent and has a lot of other nice qualities. these qualities make her seem more attractive to him, but still he thinks her family is messed up and thinks it’s crazy for them to get together because he’s so much more wealthier and what will ppl say etc. but he thinks it over and feels that he’s willing to sacrifice and let elizabeth marry him. but when he proposes, she totally rejects him because he’s always been so arrogant and mean, and of course he tried to break up her sister and his friend!

over time he realizes what he’s done and comes to accept that he loves elizabeth and that his ‘prejudices’ were wrong and that his ‘pride’ led him wrong. elizabeth too realizes her prejudices/pride etc. then they meet again and blah blah . happy ending.

but the point is… he only saw the outward at first, but then he ends up loving her for her real self…and doesn’t everyone want to be loved for herself/himself despite having maybe negative things in looks, family, wealth etc. in the end darcy shows true character and nobility by doing that. isn’t that beautiful, ma’shallah?!

Abu Hurayrah related that the Prophet (saw) said:

Men marry women for four reasons: their money, their status in society, their beauty and their religion. If you marry one who is superior in religion, then you will be [happy and] successful. (Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim)

This is from Razia……..she made me put these up. Always defending the bros!! (that’ what happens if ur the only girl with 2 older bros and tons of boy cousins)

But did you know men really don’t mind that? It’s like camping.

Ok so a brother posted on my message board asking for advice on a gift for his wife for no special occassion from $50-100. So of course I made a top ten, just to help the brotha’ out u know… he’s learnin’ … anyone else got any suggestions just post!!! () is more explicit in case u need more detailed help!

1. Picnic to scenic location with basket of gourmet pre-prepared food

2. Beautiful flowers delivered with a poem (roses & pablo neruda)

3. Jewelery (diamond pendant necklace)

4. Suprise reservations to a nice restaurant

5. A nice new designer perfume (like Romance or all Chanel mini set)

6. Jewelery (Tennis bracelet)

7. Favorite Quran reciter/lecturer full CD set

8. Lindt Chocolate Assorted Truffles

9. Bath and Body Works Set of Lotions and stuff (honeysuckle is nice)

10. Jewelery (Earrings)

Salaam,

Ok is it just me or do guys have huge expectations these days??? They are lookin’ for a blonde aishwariya lookin, home cookin’, hyderabadi, doctor lawyer martha stewart home-maker or something equally non-existant? I mean there are girls of all types, of all looks, of all shapes and sizes. All kinds of professions and backgrounds and families and social status.

Instead of looking for perfection… why don’t they concentrate on looking for deen and good character? I mean all these other things are so changeable in our world, ppl gain weight, they lose weight, they sometimes look better after marriage, look worse, whatever. But a girl with good character and deen will always be that. Wouldn’t she make a better wife and mother than someone who was whiter than paste and graduated from Stanford??