Road to Jannah

A Travelogue of Life

 

Feeling stressed out?

52 “Proven” Stress Reducers

1. Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning. The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.2. Prepare for the morning the evening before. Set the breakfast table. Make lunches. Put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.

3. Don’t rely on your memory. Write down appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc. (”The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory.”- Old Chinese Proverb)

4. Do nothing you have to lie about later.

5. Make copies of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden. Carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.

6. Practice preventive maintenance. Your car, appliances, home and relationships will be less likely to break down “at the worst possible moment.”

7. Be prepared to wait. A paperback book can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.

8. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.

9. Plan ahead. Don’t let the gas tank get below onequarter full, keep a well- stocked “emergency shelf'’ of home staples, don’t wait until you’re down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more, etc.

10. Don’t put up with something that doesn’t work right. If your alarm clock wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers-whatever-are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.

11. Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments. Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures.

12. Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet.

13. Always set up contingency plans, “just in case.” (”If for some reason either of us is delayed, here’s what we’ll do…” Or, “If we get split up in the shopping center, here’s where we’ll meet.”)

14. Relax your standards. The world will not end if the grass doesn’t get mowed this weekend.

15. Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count ‘em!

16. Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back the directions that someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old “the hurrieder I go, the behinder I get” idea.)

17. Say “No!” Saying no to extra projects, social activities and invitations you know you don’t have the time or energy for takes practice, self-respect and a belief that everyone, everyday, needs quiet time to relax and to be alone.

18. Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect.

(The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil.)

19. Turn “needs” into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don’t get attached to preferences.

20. Simplify, simplify, simplify.

21. Make friends with nonworriers. Chronic worrywarts are contagious.

22. Take many stretch breaks when you sit a lot.

23. If you can’t find quiet at home, wear earplugs.24. Get enough sleep. Set your alarm for bedtime.

25. Organize! A place for everything and everything in its place. Losing things is stressful.

26. Monitor your body for stress signs. If your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax your muscles and take some deep, slow breaths.

27. Write your thoughts and feelings down on paper. It can help you clarify and give you a renewed perspective.

28. Do this yoga exercise when you need to relax: Inhale through your nose to the count of eight. Pucker your lips and exhale slowly to the count of 16. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feel the tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times.

29. Visualize success before any experience you fear. Take time to go over every part of the event in your mind. Imagine how great you will look, and how well you will present yourself.

30. If the stress of deadlines gets in the way of doing a job, use diversion. Take your mind off the task and you will focus better when you’re on task.

31. Talk out your problems with a friend. It helps to relieve confusion.

32. Avoid people and places that don’t fit your personal needs and desires. If you hate politics, don’t spend time with politically excited people.

33. Learn to live one day at a time.

34. Everyday, do something you really enjoy.

35. Add an ounce of love to everything you do.

36. Take a bath or shower to relieve tension.

37. Do a favor for someone every day.

38. Focus on understanding rather than on being under stood, on loving rather than on being loved.

39. Looking good makes you feel better.

40. Take more time between tasks to relax. Schedule a realistic day.

41. Be flexible. Some things are not worth perfection.

42. Stop negative self-talk: “I’m too fat, too old, etc…”

43. Change pace on weekends. If your week was slow, be active. If you felt nothing was accomplished during the week, do a weekend project.

44. “Worry about the pennies, and the dollars will take care of themselves.” Pay attention to the details in front of you.

45. Do one thing at a time. When you are working on one thing, don’t think about everything else you have to do.

46. Allow time every day for privacy, quiet and thinking.

47. Do unpleasant tasks early and enjoy the rest of the day.

48. Delegate responsibility to capable people.

49. Take lunch breaks. Get away from your work in body and in mind.

50. Count to 1,000, not 10, before you say something that could make matters worse.

51. Forgive people and events. Accept that we live in an imperfect world.

52. Have an optimistic view of the world. Most people do the best they can.

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By jannah
On February 26, 2007
At 9:48 am
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Ugh… no tooth fairy for me…

salam,

so it’s 5 am and i’m wide awake and in pain. my tooth is killing me… it’s been aching like this on and off for weeks. i know, i know, why don’t i go to the dentist right!! easy for you to say but i don’t have dental insurance! what if i need a root canal and it costs $1400…ugh.. why oh why didn’t i go to the dentist before when i did have insurance… well i did like once or twice but they were such evil, mean people i didn’t go again.

big mistake.

and maybe i should have started drinking diet a long time ago. and like brushing after every meal, chewing that dental gum stuff, and flossing twice a day and using the extra-powerful-itsaysitsorange-butitsreallyhorrible-listerine stuff.

yes dawn is a good time to bring out all the regrets. while we’re at it i can regret a lot of other things in my life. like not going away for college, not waiting a few years to do my masters, not staying in syria longer the first time, not trying harder to get married way back years earlier… well gee this could go on forever… and while it’s somewhat distracting me from the pain it’s not helping.

i think at this point i start praying. excuse me a min.

ok back, yeah what is it with us humans we only pray when we are in pain and need something . whatever happened to praying to be thankful for something. when is the last time i actually did that? probably at hajj.

never grateful, never grateful, isn’t that what our problem is. we never stop at what we have and are content with it. we always want more, the big screen tv, the bmw, the iphone. (well perhaps the iphone would make us happy for a lil while at least) but it wouldn’t last for long… we’d want something else. so we keep asking Allah for more and more and more and do we thank Him for what we already have.

yeah these are all rhetorical questions that i don’t really want to answer either.

allright i’ll let you guys RUMInate on all that. (get it… reference to previous poetry post..ha..ha) while i go pray fajr and pray for a miracle.

ws

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By jannah
On February 24, 2007
At 10:39 am
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Towards understanding Islamic poetry…

Rumi

Assalaamu alaikum,

Now that I’m done with the Road to Damascus series I was trying to think of what to write about next in the blog. I thought about posting some of my old articles, but I’m sure you guys, being big fans, have already read all of those! ;) Then I thought about writing about LOVE which is such a great topic but having just been to the Al-Maghrib LoveNotes class and written a long review about it at the Madina Message board I think I’m all loved out. Then I thought about writing about friendship but since I don’t have any friends (one’s that I ever see anyway) what’s the point. I noticed that many Muslim blogs are talking about Muslim movements like Salafism and Progressive Islam or Feminism in Islam so no need to analyze those further. I could write about some Arabic learning things but since the only Arabic I study nowadays is trying to decipher Nancy Ajram’s music videos I don’t think that’d be helpful to y’all.

So what else is there to write about you ask? Well…I would like to write about Islamic poetry. Yup, poetry. Now wait, wait! Don’t leave yet!! I know a lot of people feel like they just don’t understand poetry. Especially Islamic poetry. They read something and they’re like ‘what the h… what is this guy/gal sayin’. They just can’t figure it out. (Like me and the ridiculous ‘aamiya in those videos…I mean albi = qalbi, mish=ma, inta=anta… its like!!!) Ok so let me ‘splain you….

There is a huge amount of wisdom, knowledge, shared emotion and experience in a poem. Think of them as long, expressive essays, but the trick is the poet had to express their ideas in a few words that go together in some kind of rhythm or rhyme. Poets also tend to have different themes and if you know their history you can figure out what they’re talking about. There are a lot of symbols used in poetry like the nightingale=the soul, a rose=awareness of God, wine=love of God. So you could read a whole poem like ‘the nightingale drunk on love sang a song by the rose in the garden’ or something and it has a simple lyrical vision on top but underneath there’s a whole underground layer of meaning going on. Many people also make the mistake of thinking a poem which is an allegory on Love of God is about human love because that’s what it seems like on the surface!

Then how do you know what’s really going on and how do you understand poetry? You just have to keep reading and by experience you can learn to understand poetry. And trust me after awhile you’ll love it too. So for the last couple months I’ve been posting some of my favorites so here are some you can read and start to appreciate.

Rumi – grandmaster puffdaddy of Islamic poetry. No one can match his eloquence, deep ideas or constructs. Even non-Muslims absolutely go crazy over Rumi poetry. What does he talk about? Just deep ideas about the soul, God, emotions and love. Rumi’s poetry is an ocean. You could read a poem of his one day and get one meaning and then read it on another day and get something else. There is an even deeper layer of understanding of Rumi if you study a lot of old Islamic literature like the writings of Ibn al Qayyim and Abdul Qadir al Jilani. For example, after a class on some of the discourses in Futuh al Ghayb I re-read some of the poems and it dawned on me that Rumi was talking about the same concepts! So anyways…start reading some Rumi today!! A Rumi poem a day keeps the spiritual one aware? Here are some poems you can start out with.

Iqbal – maybe the most elegant poet out there. Iqbal talked a lot about Islam and the ummah. His poems are very straightforward. Read some here.

Rabia al Adawiyya – lover of God. There’s just no one else that expressed their love of God more. Her poetry will shame and awe you. Read a few here.

Mahmoud Darwish – Palestinian poet extraordinaire. Writes about Palestine and his people. Must read.

Hafiz – way out there idea guy. I don’t know if it’s the translations or whatever, but Hafiz’s poetry is just crazy. You read it and it may be 6 words, but they totally express something. Very interesting some of his here.

Nizar Qabbani – Arab poet of emotions. He’ll just amaze you with his poems on women and love. Read some.

Some more:

FaizGhalibAgha Shahid Ali

The Burdah - classic Islamic poem on the Prophet (s)

and try reading some lovely love poems in this thread entitled ‘Of Soulful sighs and poetic words…’

Want some contemporary every day people who write nice poetry? Try Maliha or Jaihoon.

See… pretty cool right!

Ok then until next time….

walaikum assalaam warahmatullah wabarakatuhu :)

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By jannah
On February 22, 2007
At 12:21 am
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Road to Damascus 42 (last entry of this series)- Ummayad Mosque

Description of Ummayad Mosque

Ummayad Mosque of Damascus

Ahhh have I saved the best for last?

I could write pages and pages and have in my journal, but I’ll just give you a little history.

The Ummayad Mosque called Jamia Ummawiy is THE most famous Mosque in Damascus. In fact, it IS Damascus. It is the most important Masjid historically after Makkah, Madinah and Jerusalem. There is so much history to this Mosque and yet it retains its absolute ethereal beauty. People come to Damascus solely to see this Masjid. And here I am giving you the grand tour, aren’t you lucky :)

Ibn Jubayr’s wrote an account of visiting Jamia Ummiwiye from the 11th century. He described it as having beautiful golden lanterns everywhere, a spectacular clock system and with walls and pillars that were covered with golden mosaics. His description is stunning and sometimes when you are here you can see it as he saw it.

In the first pictures you can see the entrace to the Mosque is at the end of Souk Hamadiyya. You’ll see some large arch shaped pillars. These actually date back to the time this site was a roman temple for jupiter. It was then a church at one time and when the Muslims took over they made half of it a church and half of it a mosque and everyone used to worship side by side. Then the Khalifah bought out the Christian side and built them four churches in the Old City in exchange.

Once you come to the doorway you have to take off your shoes and leave them there to enter. The whole courtyard is marble with some designs. Not the originals unfortunately, as the whole of Jamia Ummiwiye has survived several fires and destruction.

The square tower you see in the center of many of the pictures is said to be the place where Ghazali wrote his Ihya-uloom-al-deen. There is also another minaret where it is said Isa (as) will descend from at the end of time.

The golden looking structure with pillars underneath at one end of the courtyard is where they used to keep the Muslim treasury. At the other end, the little dome is where there used to be clocks to tell the times of Salah. Also at that end through a door is where they say the head of Hussain was once kept and perhaps buried. Many, many Shia pilgrims come to make pilgrimage to this Mosque for that reason. Most from Iran, but one time while we were here there was a huge group of Shia Pakistani pilgrims from England!

Along the outside walls you’ll see golden designs of plants, gardens and mansions on a river. Some say these are images of Jannah, others say that they are images from Damascus’s past. Still others say that these are images from the Ummayad domain. No one really knows. Take a look at some of the images and let me know what you think ;) BTW, these aren’t paintings or drawings. They are tiny little pieces of stone mosaics that make a whole image. Tiny little golden pieces and colored stones. Look closely and you can see thousands that make up one image. How they actually made those and got them up there must have been incredible workmanship. These golden mosaics used to cover all the walls and you can imagine how incredibly, incredibly stunning and beautiful that must have been.

Inside the Mosque there used to be four different Mihrabs where each school of thought would lead the prayers when it was ‘their time’. Today they just stick with one. The green little building inside is the tomb of Yayha (as). There’s also a little sign that says “Here stood Khidr” and that has its own little story and legend that has to do with a king and a night prayer. There are also different colored glass windows all along the back wall.

The layout is said to be like an eagle. There is a dome in the middle like a head and both sides reach out like wings. That dome is hence called the ‘Dome of the Eagle’.

The Ummayad Mosque is a living breathing entity. People come here to pray on any given day. People come here for Jumah. Special events are held here like big speeches of famous people. VIPs come here. Every tourist comes here. The special rain prayer is always held here. Taraweeh here is always packed. I once saw Sh. Yacoubi randomly walking in. I have so many good memories of sitting in the courtyard watching the sunset or in the moonlight, or in the heat of the day going in to pray on the beautiful carpets.

The one memory of Damascus that I always keep with me is standing in the courtyard of this Mosque on a warm summer evening, watching the kids play and the birds fly up as the walls turned from pale pink to gold in the sunset, and thinking ‘there can be no better peace than this’.

Link to the pictures of Ummayad Mosque

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So ends my online descriptions.

India, Hajj, Syria, Damascus. So much beauty. It’s a beauty that is deep. It comes from within. If you just look at it, you can’t see it. You see mountains, old buildings, people. But if you learn and study, you understand the history of what’s there, of what was there, of who was there, then you realize the greatness, the absolute specialness, the uniqueness of what is and what was. You realize that all these things go back to one thing: to Allah and that Allah connects only to one place: your heart.

I thank Allah for allowing me, of all people in the world, to experience what I have these last months. And I thank Allah for allowing me to share this Road to Damascus with you.

Jazakamullahu khairan for reading and looking at the pictures.

All of the credit is due to Allah and only the mistakes have been mine.

Wa alaikum assalaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
Jannah

Written in the last days of Ramadan 1427 A.H.
Completed here in the first days of Muharram 1428 A.H.

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By jannah
On February 9, 2007
At 2:12 am
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Road to Damascus 41 - Souk Jumah

Description of Souk Jumah

Veggies & Fruits at the Souk

Souk Jumah is the souk right next to our house. It’s like our friendly-local souk and we go there for most of our groceries almost every day. It actually starts right after our school and is one main street that goes all the way down maybe a mile or two. Much of it is fresh produce, fruits and vegetables, nuts, olives, fresh breadmakers, hummus, even fish!

The area surrounding this souk is called Salihiyya and is one of the oldest neighborhoods in Damascus. Salihiyya was known for its Islamic madrassas throughout history. There was one street here that had 12 or 15 maddrassas just for students learning the Islamic sciences. The guidebook claims Salahuddin’s wife is buried here somewhere but I tried a number of times but could never find it. There are also a number of mosques scattered throughout including the famous Mohiuddin ibn al-Arabi Mosque where the famous Sufi is buried.


I often walked through the souk when I was bored or if it was a nice day, just to soak up the feel of it. It’s always exciting and interesting and just FEELS like this place hasn’t changed in centuries.

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Here’s an entry from my journal that talks more about this souk and souks in general if anyone’s interested:

The first days of Spring in Damascus are so beautiful. The sun finally comes out and shines on all the old buildings and monuments, little alleyways and old houses, almost making them new again. You can hear the birds singing everywhere, some wild, some from little birds in wooden cages kept on rooftops, shops and even in public parks. A neighbor across the way must keep a number of birds on their roof. I often hear them tweeting and singing through my open window.

The history of this city is staggering, almost incomprehensible. Just walking through a souk, you pass the place where Salahuddin’s wife is buried, some old madrasas where famous scholars taught, the tomb of Mohiuddin ibn Al Arabi.

Damascus has been famous in history for its beautiful gardens. One report says there were 120,000 gardens in this city, multitudes of mosques and madrasas.

On days like today, you can forget the urban sprawl, pollution and increasing western influence. You only remember that Damascus once had the most advanced hospitals and medical schools of its time. That its scholars and scholarship resonate throughout Islam until our own times. Who hasn’t picked up a book by Imam Nawwai or Ibn al Qayyim or Ghazali. Its arts of glass making, intricate wood inlay, ceramics and textiles are still famous the world over. Ever heard of a Damask tablecloth or seen the beautiful wooden furniture that comes from here and you’ll know.

A Damascus souk is like a place out of time. Winding narrow streets of stone bricks with shops and stalls crammed on both sides. I can easily imagine that these souks have not changed much over hundreds of years. Just like now, the souk must have been lined with vegetable and fruit sellers. A shoe maker, a rug store. Little shops of hijabs, jilbabs, abayahs, household goods. Nowadays you can add a little CD shop, western wear clothes shops and imported products from China or Korea.

The souk near our house is called Souk Jumah. It starts next to the Abu Nour Islamic school with bookstores, stationary supplies, and CD stores of Islamic lectures and nasheed and then continues on into grocery stores, bread shops and vegetable carts, until it turns into the souk proper and then continues all the way down past Sh. Mohiuddin’s Masjid and tomb. I’ve never actually seen the end because either we walked enough to be tired or purchased all the goods we needed. Perhaps this souk winds all the way down across the bottom of Mount Qasiyoun.

There’s always something to see in the souk. Sometimes when I’m bored and want to feel like I’m living in a different place I’ll come here. All manner of people come to go shopping, to buy their week’s groceries, or just walk around checking out all the new goods and latest fashions. There’s little old men and women buying their tangerines or bread. Housewives bargaining with the butchers on the price of chicken parts. School children in their little blue uniforms walking and running in groups, sometimes crowding into a toy stall or candy shop. Mothers carry their babies or push them in carriages. There is a constant buzz of cars, shoppers, storekeepers

Sometimes you’ll see a horse driven cart go through. Although these days you see mostly Suzuki trucks full of apples or bananas or crates of vegetables like tomatoes, carrots and potatoes. These are goods being delivered direct from the farm. Sometimes an apple farm owner will travel down the souk delivering a case of his apples to each stall as he goes. Because of all the traffic, I almost wish they would close it off to cars and suzukis so we could shop freely but I guess there’s no other way to receive deliveries and the alleyways are too narrow to build sidewalks.

Once I saw hundreds of men following a funeral bier through the souk. Each store would ‘close’ by putting something at their entrance or closing their door out of respect. I thought that was a beautiful tradition. You also see many beggars especially near Sh. Mohiuddin. At one particular spot right near the entrance to an ancient madrasa I always see this crippled man. He never asks anyone for money nor does he have a plate or pot. He just sits there and as people walk by, every now and then someone stops to give him something.

Yesterday someone remarked that Syria is in transition from yesterday to tomorrow. It truly is, and I feel that it is almost in a fight with itself trying to figure out which way to go. I would truly be saddened to see Syria turn its back on its traditions and culture and ‘modernize’. To let the souk go by way of huge malls and all the materialism it brings with it! For now at least I can enjoy and feel like what life must have been like hundreds of years ago before this disappears as well.

Link to the pictures of Souk Jumah

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By jannah
On February 7, 2007
At 5:29 am
Comments : 2