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		<title>Memories of early Muslims in Albany, NY &#8212; part 1</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 10 May 2012 04:07:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today was an extremely nice day. The kind that heralds the beginning of Summer after a usually cold and horrible winter. Alhamdulillah though, this year our winter was very mild but after a week of Indian summer in the middle &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/05/10/memories-of-early-muslims-in-albany-ny-part-1/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today was an extremely nice day. The kind that heralds the beginning of Summer after a usually cold and horrible winter. Alhamdulillah though, this year our winter was very mild but after a week of Indian summer in the middle of February the weather went back to cold until just recently. </p>
<p>My Dad and I sat out on the porch for awhile drinking our tea and talking about this and that. The topic of our ancestors came up as my uncle just sent us a family tree from India that went back 10 generations from my great grandfather! The first person is listed as &#8220;Shaikh Salahuddin&#8221;, who was probably the first person in our family to convert to Islam in India. </p>
<p>I was saying how I wish we could have known who he was and his story. Then somehow we talked about this and that and my Dad said his father had actually owned a gold coin from the Uthmani era and a very old hand-written illuminated Quran. He had seen these things with his own eyes as a teenager and wrote to his family from Australia (where he went for his PhD) to keep these items safe as they were very valuable. But somehow no one can find them now. Either it was hidden somewhere, someone took them or they were just lost over time either before or after his father died. </p>
<p>So then I told my Dad he should write down his history and how he came to America and about the early Muslims in this area. Then he told me &#8216;well this is a job of a blogger and ur old too now, u can write about ur memories!&#8217; D&#8217;oh! So very true. </p>
<p>We now have so many Mosques in this area and when I go to some events I know less than half the people. I often wonder who everyone is. This is just so unheard of. When I was growing up every Muslim knew every Muslim by name&#8230;</p>
<p>So here is the first in what I hope is a series of posts on the early Muslims of Albany, NY:<br />
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<p>One of my very first memories in America is our father taking us to the Mosque for the first time. This would be the original Islamic Center of the Capital District in Colonie. Back then it was a little white stucco structure that looked a little like a house from the outside. There was a little rectangular parking lot out front and a long area of lawn on the side. (Yup that&#8217;s it, no school, no huge community center, no winding wrap-around parking lot, no playgrounds, nothin!) (and we loved it.) Inside there was a downstairs basement area that was carpeted and had ping pong tables. Mid level upstairs there were 3 rooms, 2 of which were used as classrooms and one as an office, and a corner shoe area and then the upstairs big Musallah area. Over time the downstairs basement area would come to have these big office type of partitions so they could create three or four large classrooms (including one under the stairs!) and also have half that as an area to have community dinners. </p>
<p>The Mosque was made up of every ethnicty. There were Arabs, Pakistanis, Indians, Turkish, Cambodians, Afghanis, African-Americans etc etc. This was the the only Mosque of the area (except for maybe a musallah in Troy near RPI) and everyone from the Troy, Schenectady, Albany area as far north as Lake George and as far south as the Catskills would come there. </p>
<p>My teachers were mostly Arab mothers like Sister Sukina, Sister Hoda, Sister Samia, Sister Fatima, Sister Suzanne and some brothers who were there as phD students like the principal Brother Djafer, Brother Abdul Nasser, Brother Errol and my Dad and later on Brother Sohail. The first Imam I can remember was Br. Shawki and there was some kind of controversy about him and later on an Egyptian Imam straight from Egypt who didn&#8217;t speak any English and then we had Shaikh Mokhtar who was a phD student from Syracuse/turned Imam.</p>
<p>Anyway during these early years in the 80s we would go to the Mosque every Friday night and Sunday afternoon. The adults would have some kind of lecture upstairs and we&#8217;d have our classes. Our Dad was pretty strict and we weren&#8217;t allowed to skip Mosque for any reason!! Even if we had missed school that day we were usually fine enough to go to Mosque lol. I developed a ton of friendships in my class and was especially close to a group of 5 girls. We were extreme best friends but the oddest thing is we never saw each other except at the Mosque on the weekends! Occasionally they had a &#8216;Youth Day&#8217; on a Saturday where people came and just played sports on the lawn. One Saturday night every month they had a &#8216;community dinner&#8217;, where absolutely everyone would come and we&#8217;d all eat downstairs on the long plastic tables with metal folding chairs. </p>
<p>The route to the Mosque was pretty regular. From Albany down Washington Ave to Washington Ave extension till we got to the big water tower, a right down to Central Ave and then all the way down Central Ave to the little turn at the Ethan Allen furniture shop. There was literally nothing once you got to the Suny campus. This is before all the new buildings on the right side including hotels and medical arts and the apartment building! they have there now. It was all just woods. Down Washington Ave extension there was literally nothing but swamp probably. This was even pre-Crossgates pre-Walmart era, even pre-office buildings era! I think the Italian American center was there but nothing else. Down that 155 road there was nothing until they built a Cracker Barrel type of country store thing that we found very expensive. And all along Central ave there were businesses going up and down and a number of car dealerships sprang up towards the end of Central ave, before the big cemetery and the turn for the Mosque. Where the Islamic school is now, across the street from the Mosque, was just woods. The school was an old dilapidated building and there was a long sort of building next to it (stables? old stores?) that I used to stare at and wonder what it had been.</p>
<p>Some of the mothers would drop off their kids at the Mosque and go to the mall that was nearby. At that time it existed as Mohawk Mall and had stores like Caldor&#8217;s. On the way back home my Dad first used to stop at Northway Mall which had a Sears type store called Montgomery Ward where he would buy stuff and we&#8217;d go into the mall to find our own fun. It used to be one long hall with small stores on either side. There was one dedicated store to stickers! Yup stickers of all kinds like scratch n sniff and water filled and rolls of various stuff and packaged strawberry shortcake stickers and whatever else. I&#8217;d usually go in there to look around while my older brother would have disappeared into the arcade towards the other end of the mall. This was definitely another era where our parents would just bring us to the mall and everyone would fan out on their own. It seems impossible now in the era of pedophiles and crazies. I completely panic when I don&#8217;t see my niece or nephews in Target for 5 minutes! Ahhh such was the 80s. </p>
<p>We also used to go to some grocery store every Sunday after Mosque. I think this was an A&#038;P market and later a Price Chopper next door to the K-Mart at the corner of 155 and Central. We&#8217;d go around the entire store with the cart and our Dad allowed us to get only &#8220;one item&#8221; that we kids wanted. This could be a favorite cereal or a brick of cheese or something. Later on when I was a teenager we would go out to eat after Mosque and invariably this would be at the Taco Bell that sprang up in that new Price Chopper complex. </p>
<p>So next time more on what we did at the Mosque and growing up and maybe a scandalous secret or two about what us kids discovered beyond the forest! <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />  C u then!!</p>
<p>A few pics courtesy of Usama Chaudhry&#8230;<br />

<a href='http://jannah.org/blog/2012/05/10/memories-of-early-muslims-in-albany-ny-part-1/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979/' title='iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979'><img width="150" height="150" src="http://jannah.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979-150x150.jpg" class="attachment-thumbnail" alt="The brand new &#039;Islamic Center of the Capital District&#039; in 1979." title="iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979" /></a>
<a href='http://jannah.org/blog/2012/05/10/memories-of-early-muslims-in-albany-ny-part-1/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_2/' title='iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_2'><img width="150" height="150" src="http://jannah.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_2-150x150.jpg" class="attachment-thumbnail" alt="The cars really date this picture lol." title="iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_2" /></a>
<a href='http://jannah.org/blog/2012/05/10/memories-of-early-muslims-in-albany-ny-part-1/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_3/' title='iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_3'><img width="150" height="150" src="http://jannah.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_3-150x150.jpg" class="attachment-thumbnail" alt="They added some trees and shrubs. First parking spot there was always reserved for the Imam!" title="iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_3" /></a>
<a href='http://jannah.org/blog/2012/05/10/memories-of-early-muslims-in-albany-ny-part-1/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_4/' title='iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_4'><img width="150" height="150" src="http://jannah.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_4-150x150.jpg" class="attachment-thumbnail" alt="First purpose-built Mosque in the area." title="iccd_when_it_was_new_circa_1979_4" /></a>
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		<title>Sigh</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I really couldn&#8217;t think of what to post today&#8230; sometimes I think no one reads the blog and then someone says Hey I read your blog@! and I&#8217;m like !!! and ? So any suggestions for topics to write about??? &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/05/04/sigh/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I really couldn&#8217;t think of what to post today&#8230; sometimes I think no one reads the blog and then someone says Hey I read your blog@! and I&#8217;m like !!! and ?</p>
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		<title>I miss</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Apr 2012 05:01:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I miss&#8230; - Walking to the library on a Saturday and coming back with a ginormous amount of books, then staying up all night so excited to read them - Going to dinner and a movie with the girls - &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/04/27/i-miss/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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<p>I miss&#8230;</p>
<p>- Walking to the library on a Saturday and coming back with a ginormous amount of books, then staying up all night so excited to read them</p>
<p>- Going to dinner and a movie with the girls</p>
<p>- Star Trek: TNG</p>
<p>- Getting a prize from the cereal box</p>
<p>- Islamic events where everryyyyyyyyyone who was anyone would come, either local or national like Isna</p>
<p>- Waiting for a TV show/movie to come on at a specific time</p>
<p>- 80s movies</p>
<p>- Places where u can&#8217;t get a cell phone signal</p>
<p>- When our Imams/Shaikhs were young</p>
<p><center><img src="http://jannah.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/captain_cat.jpg" alt="" title="captain_cat" width="225" height="225" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-3791" /></center></p>
<p>- IRC</p>
<p>- Our old library (see old blog rant)</p>
<p>- Real letters</p>
<p>- Pen pals</p>
<p>- 90s hair</p>
<p>- Bike riding with headphones and without a helmut</p>
<p>- Staying up llllaaaate and being able to get up earlllyyyy</p>
<p>- Internet Pre-Facebook</p>
<p>- Weddings of ppl older than me</p>
<p>sigh&#8230; onwards future&#8230; What do you miss?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Updated for this year!!! DATES: June 10th &#8211; June 20th, 2012 TEACHER: Sessions will be taught by Sh. Mokhtar Maghraoui. Click here for more information and to register online: http://www.jannah.org/retreat/ http://www.zawiyah.net Related posts: INFOGRAPHIC &#8211; Guide to Islamic Veils Hijab &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/04/24/islamic-retreat-in-the-adirondacks/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Updated for this year!!!</p>
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		<title>Ten Things I Want to Tell Teenage Muslim Girls</title>
		<link>http://jannah.org/blog/2012/04/20/ten-things-i-want-to-tell-teenage-muslim-girls/</link>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ten Things I Want to Tell Teenage Muslim Girls I realllly liked this article and wanted to write something similar but specific to Muslim girls. A few years ago I wrote an article for Muslim girls which is kind of &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/04/20/ten-things-i-want-to-tell-teenage-muslim-girls/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2><strong>Ten Things I Want to Tell Teenage Muslim Girls</strong></h2>
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I realllly liked <a href="http://kateelizabethconner.com/ten-things-i-want-to-tell-teenage-girls/" target="_blank">this article</a> and wanted to write something similar but specific to Muslim girls. A few years ago I wrote <a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2009/05/29/advice-for-muslim-girls/" target="_blank">an article for Muslim girls </a>which is kind of similar but probably for an older age group.</p>
<p>So…. <font color="deeppink">ten things I want to tell teenage Muslim girls….</font color><br />
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">1. Stop posting hootchie pictures of yourself on Facebook.</font color></strong> Better yet, stop dressing hootchie. I get it, it’s nice to get all the attention and all the boys “liking” your picture and telling you ‘ur so beeeutiful’, ‘ur sooo hawttt’. But in the end what exactly are you doing?? Yeah guys are going to like it, but your rep is your rep. You’ll always be known as that ‘skanky’ girl. Nice to hang out with, look at, or use temporarily. Can’t respect yourself? Why should they? Btw if you want marriage one day to a good guy, no guy is going to come near u with a ten foot pole. Trust me on this.</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">2. Don’t use Fair n’ Lovely.</font></strong> Don’t use diet pills. Don’t use hair straightener. Don’t wear green contacts. Just don’t do anything to yourself that you don’t want to do. Society has ridiculous standards. I’ll tell you right now, you’ll never be thin enough, white enough/tan enough, pretty enough etc. Advertising wants you to feel bad about yourself, that’s how they sell products. Also, America has yet to realize the beauty of other cultures, ie Indian beauty dark hair and eyes, Malaysian beauty, Sudani beauty etc etc. You’re beautiful the way you are. And don’t forget it.</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">3. Avoid dramas &#038; stop trying to be with the popular girls.</font></strong> Do you know where the popular girls end up usually? Yeah. Nowhere. Now the smart girls, the brainy girls, the one’s with goals, and thoughts and crazy ideas. They do great stuff in life. Now, what&#8217;s with all the drama with girls. Why start it, why get involved? What’s the point? Think about all your past dramas. Did they help you in any way in life? Did you gain anything at all? Don’t waste your time and energy. And do yourself a favor and stay away from the girls who like to surround themselves with drama too. Recognize that some &#8216;friends&#8217; are always going to be &#8216;frenemies&#8217;. Just stay away from them, you&#8217;ll thank me one day. <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">4. Don’t start a relationship you can’t finish.</font></strong> Having a ‘boyfriend’ ie someone you talk to all the time and hangout with even if you don’t call them ur boyfriend is not worth it. Besides being Haram, you can’t really do anything about it at this age. It’ll cause a ton of drama and hurt and feelings throughout these years when you should be concentrating on developing yourself. Do you really want to wake up in your 20s ready for marriage when you have a string of past failed relationships behind you. Yeah it’s ugly. Don’t do it.</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">5. You can be pretty ugly inside.</font></strong> Yep you. What’s inside? Things like honesty, compassion, modesty, faith, love, Allah consciousness? Or is it jealousy, backbiting, lying, ignorance, and hate. Yeah. Work on the insides just like you try to prettify the outside! Being spiritual and working on your character is essential to being a better girl and Muslim.</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">6. Do all your prayers and fasts.</font></strong> For some reason this society teaches you that you&#8217;re a little kid until you&#8217;re 18. In Islam, you&#8217;re an adult at puberty! You&#8217;re responsible for your 5 prayers and fasting in Ramadan. Even if you miss some prayers because ur at school or Fajr, make it up as soon as you can. I know one sister who has been praying an extra prayer with every prayer, and she&#8217;ll have to do this for YEARS to make up for what she neglected when she was a teenager. </li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">7. Read!</font></strong> Please for the love of Allah read. Doesn’t matter if it’s Twilight or the Hunger Games, but read something. Reading just makes you a more interesting, intelligent and cultured person. Something you want to be! (I hope <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> )</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">8. Don’t let a guy use you.</font></strong> Guys in their teenage years like to explore and have friends that are girls. It makes them feel like they have someone. But it doesn’t last. They still have a ton of years to go through high school experiences, college and so on. Don’t get all entangled and dependent on a guy.</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">9. Do stuff.</font></strong> Don’t just sit at home watching ur favorite CW show and doing ur nails. Volunteer with an organization, get involved with the Mosque youth group, start things in your community. Try different things. Go to classes and Halaqas and start learning. Older people always say this ‘is the best time in your life’ blah blah. But yeah it can be, so don’t waste it!</li>
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<li><strong><font color="deeppink">10. Your parents love you.</font></strong> Growing up here we’re always trained to think of our parents as our enemies. They’re just so annoying and wrong and don’t understand and make us do stuff we don’t like and curb our freedom! But they’re also the only people in the world that have your back and love you unconditionally. Don’t forget that.<br />
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&#8230;especially when the zombies come <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </li>
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		<title>Friends</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Apr 2012 05:01:38 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[There&#8217;s a scene in Dil Chahta Hai where the three protagonists right after their college graduation take a road trip to a resort. They&#8217;re overlooking the beautiful ocean in the distance and one says, &#8220;We should meet out here every &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/04/13/friends/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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<p>There&#8217;s a scene in Dil Chahta Hai where the three protagonists right after their college graduation take a road trip to a resort. They&#8217;re overlooking the beautiful ocean in the distance and one says, &#8220;We should meet out here every 10 years!&#8221;. And the more mature and wiser one of them says (of course what is to be an omen, this is Bollywood u know! <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> ), &#8220;What makes you think we&#8217;ll meet even once in the next 10 years or that we&#8217;ll still be friends then?&#8221;</p>
<p>When we are little we always imagine that we&#8217;ll grow up with our close friends, get married and live near each other with our husbands and kids! I still remember us making plans with friends when we were 15 and 16. Sadly that group of friends&#8217; plans fizzled when college started and everyone was flung out all over the US and world even. Somehow over time people lose touch, misunderstandings and miscommunications occur. People change, they get busy, they develop new interests and patterns, the dynamics of the group change, new people come in, jealousy and unnecessary drama, all contribute to the end of what was in its naive innocence a close friendship.</p>
<p>I think close friendships that are positive relationship wise and not predatory (using each other for something) are very rare to find. Perhaps the best example we can find is the friendship between Rasulullah (s) and Abu Bakr (ra). Neither &#8220;used&#8221; the other for anything but yet were always supportive and there for each other. When Rasulullah (saw) left for the Hijrah, who did he find but Abu Bakr (ra) with a horse and provisions ready to be his companion. When Rasulullah (saw) asked for help for the cause of Allah, Abu Bakr (ra) came with all the money he had to the exasperation of Omar (ra) who said he might as well stop competing now! When asked who he loved the most in the world Rasulullah (saw) said Abu Bakr (ra), and when asked who next he said <em>his</em> (Abu Bakr&#8217;s) daughter.</p>
<p>Friendship is definitely a two way street. It&#8217;s sad when people stop hanging out or calling each other etc. I know I&#8217;ve neglected a lot of friendships because of my own issues and problems. But as I get older, I realize that it&#8217;s really important to keep in touch and keep those friendships alive. It seems 20xs harder to make new friends as you get older too! I actually wish I kept more in touch with my old high school and college friends too.</p>
<p>This is a reminder to myself perhaps how precious good friends are and how they are needed on this &#8216;Road to Jannah&#8217;.</p>
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		<title>Things that annoy me</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 05:01:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[OK going to go back to posting something every Friday even if it&#8217;s irrelevant&#8230; Feel free to ignore this post&#8230;.especially if something here annoys you Things that annoy me: - &#8220;friends&#8221; that diss you for long periods of time then &#8230;<p class="read-more"><a href="http://jannah.org/blog/2012/04/06/things-that-annoy-me/">Read more &#187;</a></p>
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<p>OK going to go back to posting something every Friday even if it&#8217;s irrelevant&#8230; <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Feel free to ignore this post&#8230;.especially if something here annoys you <img src='http://jannah.org/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Things that annoy me:</p>
<p>- &#8220;friends&#8221; that diss you for long periods of time then assume you&#8217;re still &#8220;friends&#8221;</p>
<p>- ppl who always argue with you about your statuses on fb/twitter</p>
<p>- women in domestic violence situations who describe how horrible it is to gain your sympathy/help, then the next day say &#8216;everythings fine&#8217; and are angry with ppl who say otherwise</p>
<p>- bratty kids</p>
<p>- brothers who are 30+ and still players</p>
<p>- mechanics who rip u off cuz ur a girl</p>
<p>- ghetto attitudes in mosques/schools ie everyone should work for free, we shouldn&#8217;t have anything nice or think about the future or what we&#8217;re doing, the mosque should be junky dirty etc</p>
<p>- aunties who never fail to ask about your marital status</p>
<p>- young girls with pouty/sexualized profile pics</p>
<p>- guys who wax lyrical all about islam and how makeup and pants and intermixing are haram etc then after some time go marry a non-muslim</p>
<p>- wedding crashers</p>
<p>- cheapness</p>
<p>- huge companies that are designed to rip off consumers ie banks, airlines, sprint, time warner etc.</p>
<p>- ppl who think losing weight is easy</p>
<p>- parents who want special treatment for *their* kid</p>
<p>- screaming babies/kids at taraweeh</p>
<p>- muslims who act like they don&#8217;t watch movies or listen to music when they do</p>
<p>- when ppl define beauty based upon amount of melanin</p>
<p>- when guys think women are either docile quiet and islamic or career minded feminizis</p>
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