Jan 25, 2010 - writings    6 Comments

Not a democracy.

As you may (or may not) know, I try to post something every Friday. Just to spread things out a bit and in case I run out of things to say there’s always some backup for a bit! Now, I often have people that disagree with my posts, which I have no problem with (when it’s done in a rational appropriate manner). My problem would be when you make the disagreement personal (why do you think you know me, mr./ms. person on the internet?) or you ARE someone who knows me and write hostile things here on the blog (a person’s blog is definitely an appropriate place to attack them <./sarcasm>). Uhhhh? Can we say mental health issues. So basically I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again. My website/blog/facebook whatever is not a democracy. You can’t write whatever you want here. It doesn’t belong to you. I run it the way I see as beneficial to everyone and myself. And if you don’t like it sorry, you are free to go elsewhere.

I know this sounds mean, but you see, I will be responsible for my actions on the Day of J. and I don’t want to be responsible for yours. If I see something wrong, inappropriate or not beneficial I will censor/delete/not approve it. I honestly can’t understand why someone wouldn’t and I’m sure if you thought about it, and you were in my place, you would agree as well.

So… long rant about my personal defects in the “guise of Naseeha”… delete. (delete “friendship” too) Inappropriate post about my personal life… not approved. Arguments and links that are pro-terrorism… banned. Anti-Islamic missionary post… delete. Reply on how Muslim girls in the west are all sl*ts… not approved. Detailed opinion of why everyone should take off hijab and why u think it’s not fard… not approved. Posts calling other Muslims Kafir… banned. etc etc. You get the picture.

So I’m just putting this out there. I know there are some Islamic sites out there where anything and everything is allowed. From inappropriateness, to outright attacks on people and I must add outright filth. Their philosophy is that ‘the cream will rise to the top’ and that these things will be weeded out by positive/negative peer pressure. Good luck with that. It does make for an active forum, but it also gives rise to clear Dhulm. Who will be responsible for it in the end? The poster? The others who participate? The moderator? The website owner? I’m going to say all of the above.

And I’m going to say that is what happens when there is no leadership, no clear vision, no values. Yes, a person in charge may make mistakes. They may err on the side of caution or liberality. They may not always be “fair” in your own subjective opinion. You may even be “right”, but your right may not be greater than the beneficial whole. Do you see what I’m saying? But without leadership and yes even censorship, things quickly dissolve into chaos, and as I mentioned wrong is put on a platform equal to right. And that’s something I’m not going to be responsible for.

Again, there are appropriate ways to dissent, disagree or even interact with someone you don’t like that I can totally be fine with. Learn them. Ok sorry to bring up this ugly underbelly of website business. But it needed to be said. If you have any questions on this, please let me know. Thank u, come again.


  • Well, so much for something more lighthearted, lol. In all seriousness though, the above had to be said. Nicely put. Insha’allah, you’re welcome and yes, I will come again . . :-) . . if it’s ok with you I mean *shivers at the thought of angry Sis Jannah*

  • Funny.. aren’t u studying to be a doctor wallah or something…they must have a ‘How to be mean 101′ somewhere in Med school :p

  • Yes, I am studying to be a doctor insha’allah, in fact, passed an exam today (Forensic Medicine) and one of the questions I got was “Duties of a Physician” and sorry to inform you Sis, but no heading entitled “How to be Mean” in that chapter! LOL!

  • Good post. All too often, people assume that just because they can say what they want, it means that other people want to hear it. Further, because so much of the Internet allows ‘information to be free’ and allows a certain anonymity people take liberties there that they would never risk in person. Good for you for asserting your intellectual property rights and your right as owner of the blog to determine what is posted on it.

  • Go youu! :D Well said, totally agree, rock on.

  • I wish you guys could be my personal cheerleading squad whenever i have to make a difficult decision. Like you’d just popup right there with your pompoms and be like ‘yeahhhh u go girl’. Life would be so. good. :))))))