What’s with the fascination w/ Mr. darcy?

salam, so lots of bros ask me this so i decided to write a post to help them out.

Why is Pride and Prejudice so fascinating?

ok brothers let me ‘splain u …….. (as azhar usman says :-/ )


basically the story is about a family of 5 girls set around 19th century england. so the mother is of course desperately trying to marry them off. two really wealthy guys *just happen to* show up in their neighborhood. so the first one falls in love with the eldest girl, and the other one at first does not like the second sister but over the course of the movie ends up falling in love with her and she with him. and there’s some sub-plots and some adventures but thats basically what its about

so why do girls love it?

  • - every muslim girl has a mother who desperately wants to marry her off
  • - who wouldn’t want a rich, intelligent guy to fall in love with her
  • - who hasn’t had a proposal from a freak cousin/mr. collins type
  • - we all want to wear the pretty dresses in the movie
  • - who hasn’t been brushed off by some guy cause they are at first ‘not pretty enough’
  • - and of course who doesn’t love a happy ending

so i hope you now understand.

and don’t be jealous of mr darcy… for you married brothers i’m sure for your wives you are the mr darcy!! :)

Now let me ‘splain u why Mr. darcy is so special:

when he first meets elizabeth he thinks she is plain (an 18th century word for not pretty) and beneath him in terms of rank and family, so he completely disses her. over the course of the book/movie he starts to learn more about her and he realizes that she is witty, intelligent and has a lot of other nice qualities. these qualities make her seem more attractive to him, but still he thinks her family is messed up and thinks it’s crazy for them to get together because he’s so much more wealthier and what will ppl say etc. but he thinks it over and feels that he’s willing to sacrifice and let elizabeth marry him. but when he proposes, she totally rejects him because he’s always been so arrogant and mean, and of course he tried to break up her sister and his friend!

over time he realizes what he’s done and comes to accept that he loves elizabeth and that his ‘prejudices’ were wrong and that his ‘pride’ led him wrong. elizabeth too realizes her prejudices/pride etc. then they meet again and blah blah . happy ending.

but the point is… he only saw the outward at first, but then he ends up loving her for her real self…and doesn’t everyone want to be loved for herself/himself despite having maybe negative things in looks, family, wealth etc. in the end darcy shows true character and nobility by doing that. isn’t that beautiful, ma’shallah?! :D

Abu Hurayrah related that the Prophet (saw) said:

Men marry women for four reasons: their money, their status in society, their beauty and their religion. If you marry one who is superior in religion, then you will be [happy and] successful. (Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim)


  • Yes, it is masha’allah..That sounds like a real struggle of someone who has good natures but still not immune to bad things like pride, prejudice, jealousy etc etc they can overcome those and in the end have a good ending. This process of struggle to be better is the important one. Just a reminder, sometimes it’s easy to label this person as good, that person as not, based on separate details.. Some bad stuff that people do don’t make them bad people and some good stuff that people do dont make them entirely good people. Good people have gone through, done bad things too before they become the good people they are now, you just have to be patient especially if you see some real good potential in somebody. don’t just shoo them away without seeing whats s/he about first. sorry for the rant.. does it even make any sense? loll…

  • yes it does make sense… thanx for that comment peace :)

  • as-salam alaykum,

    as a fellow fan of jane austen, i thought you might like this post from our blog (othermatters.org): http://othermatters.wordpress.com/2006/02/09/the-joy-of-reading-jane-austen/

  • It’s a good film and my wife loves it. But would she still be interested in him if he were poor? He’s not exactly a difficult guy to love. He’s got all the qualities women love, right? Handsome, mysterious, a little bit arrogant, and rich.

    That mother is such a a dramatist, and the two youngest daughters are utter birdbrains. Takes guts to marry into a family like that.

    One thing that bothers me about these stories is that they’re set in a world where everyone is either rich or richer. Even the so-called “poor” have land and servants. And yet this was a time (19th century England, right?) when masses of people were literally dying of hunger, disease and malnutrition. Most people were landless, living in slums and working themselves to death in awful factories. But in these films, none of that exists.

    Of course we can’t expect a film to acknowledge every societal ill of the times, so I guess accept it within its self-imposed boundaries. – Wael

  • By the way, it’s very hard to read this light colored text against the lavender background. I have to highlight it to read it.

  • ur right wael… that’s one of the biggest criticisms of jane austen… even one of the bronte sisters once cattily said that jane only writes of ‘perfect gardens within white picket fences’ or some such… makes sense cuz look at wuthering heights compared to p&p!! but that is why people love jane austen.. who wants to read about war and famine and abnormal crazy love (can we say heathcliff)or thomas hardy (read tess of the d’urbervilles u’ll want to kill urself after)

    jane austen is about the drama.. it’s about her dry humor… about the fallabilities of humans…the irony of life..of crazy situations…and of course the question of love…while never really getting into it (as is proper ;0)..and the stories are interesting enough to have lasted 200 hundred years and countless adaptations.

  • Salam Sis J – This might sound strange, but Pride and Prejudice is one of my favorite books! Additionally, a Sister I know back home (Bengali) whose family is really “tight” with mine, also loves it and especially the BBC production of the book, which I love very much as well. Since discovering this common liking, from time to time we chat about it. From these exchanges, just as you described , there a lot of beautiful things that occur over the course of the narrative, but one moment that stuck out to this Sister was when when Elizabeth is helping Darcy’s sister play the piano and at one point, Darcy looks at Elizabeth from across the room, that look itself – more love and romance that any movie we see these days – without even being in close proximity to each other. Just thought that was another beautiful concept and wanted to share it when I saw this blog entry. So I think the fascination with Mr. Darcy and P&P in general is not necessarily limited to the fairer sex. :-)

  • Thanks for ‘splainin it so well, sister!