no you are not being naive alot of people ask that.
But to be honest with you... love in islam comes after you get married.
Yes its true there are people, people i know too who have that spark when they first meet. But it is not love.
The reason i say that is becuase, you never truely love that person or appreciate that person until you live with them, in a marriage sharign responisibilties Then love grows.
Before marriage it is called Lust which is what everyone feels when they first meet someone, if you are attracted to them then you feel alll sorts of emotions (Not goin to say all of them lol) But that goes away, and most of the time you are left with nothing.
Lust feels like love but it is superficial. From what i have seen of people, even muslims getting married becuase of thier lust for one another and they cant control themselves. And they get married and once togther and after the honeymoon period when they have to start acting like a marreid couple and cater to one another it goes down hill.
If you marry a person for the right reason, and you go in with an open mind and realsie you are not perfect yourself love will grow and it will be amazing. Not superfical crap you see on TV or when you see kuffar dating, thats all superficial and wont last.
I am talking about love that will still be there when you are old and gray and everything has gone south lol.
And when you love a person for the sake of alalh, you can not go wrong.
Even if you spend years getting to know that person before you get married and you "Date" you will never truely understand what real love is and what it means to be with that person. When you get married then you will know. But of course you need to have a spark something to get you to marriage and then from there it grows.
I am not saying marry someone who you have nothing in common with or you not attracted to. But be honest with yourself why is it that you are actually marrying this person, for allah, for companionship to love someone. Or is it becuase you are hormonal and full of lust.
Seriously the amount of times i used to hear my non muslim friends say they were in love.. i cant count the number of times i heard it. Even to this day they are still in that game of lust and then breakup. Nothing more comes out of it. They call it love but if it was love they would be married to them lol. I do feel sorry for them. Becuase most of them have children out of marriage adn have no real support all becuase they made the wrong choices in life. But alhamdulilah allah has saved us from that. He only wants us to experince pure love that lasts.