well i have experince of this.
I was approached by 2 sisters who actually wanted me to be thier husbands 2nd wife :S
And a man also asked me to be his wife too he was already amrried with 2 kids. I of course rejected both.
One of the sisters who asked me was a revert, and her hsuband was moroccan. she felt that he needed someone who was from a similar background and who could cook for him and give him all his home comforts. We were good freinds before she asked and thought i was sooo sweet and perfect for him. She was excited, but i couldnt believe it i am not into that sort of thing. I know its acceptable in Islam.
I believe that it takes Guts and a higher Iman to do that act. And any woman who offers and asks for another wife for her husband has to be respected highly.
But i couldnt do it. I am too much of a jelouse person. I would turn green with envy lol
Its just not for me. And i would make that clear to any man before we got married. I could never accept it.
It happened in my family, my grandmother and also my half aunts mother. it was ok accepted although the woemn were nto 100% happy as they didnt ahve any input on who their husbands married. i think if they did it would of been ok. Perhaps?
I think its something that is acceptable in Islam, its not Sunnah or Fard its an option. Not for eeryone but its there for those who can afford to and who have a big enough heart. And i dont like to share anything
especially a man who i have waited for my whoooollle life. No way will i share. lol