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Bulaaleyare

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10 advices for a happy married life!
« on: Sep. 24, 2009, 07:14 PM »

The First Advice

My beloved Sister!
Lead a life of contentment.
Be content even with simple food.
The dry bread and water,
which is eaten with contentment,
is better than a rich meal,
which is eaten after your persistant
complaints, forcing him to
grudgingly provide it for you.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Second Advice

My beloved Sister!
Always listen attentively to what your
husband says. Give importance to what
he says and do as he says. In this manner,
you will soon win a place in his heart, because
it is not really a person who is beloved,
but what the person does that is most loved.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Third Advice

My beloved Sister!
Tend your beauty carefully
so that whenever he will looks
at you, he will be pleased with his
choice. Within the limits of decency,
use as much fragrance as possible,
and remember that no part of
your body or dress should
repulse him."

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Fourth Advice

My beloved Sister!
Be always attractive to him, put
Surma in your eyes, for beautiful
eyes make a person's whole being
beautiful in the eyes of the beholder.
Bath and do ablution regularly,
as this is the best perfume
and the best way to
cleanliness.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Fifth Advice

My beloved Sister!
Prepare his meals before it is
time as hunger becomes a flame if
not satisfied. During the hours of
rest, keep it quiet and peaceful
as disturbed sleep makes a
man miserable and angry.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Sixth Advice

My beloved Sister!
Protect his home and treasure;
let no one enter the house without
his permission and do not waste his
treasure by indulging in exhibition,
for treasure can only be tended
through good management and
the family only through good
sense.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Seventh Advice

My beloved Sister!
Never disobey him and always
keep his secrets, for disobeying such
a honourable man would put fuel to fire
and revealing his secrets would destroy
his trust in you. And you, yourself will
not be safe from his (retaliatory)
double standards. Someone has
rightly said " To be trusted is
better than to be loved."

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Eighth Advice

My beloved Sister!
If he is grieved over something,
then do not mention to him anything
that has pleased you. Share his grief.
When he is happy, do not disclose your
hidden grief and do not complain to
your husband about his behaviour.
Be happy with him. Otherwise
you will be regarded as one
who confuses him.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Ninth Advice

My beloved Sister!
If you wish to be respectable in his
eyes, then honour and respect him
and act according to his wishes.
Then at every stage of your life
you will find him to be your
best companion.

~~~~~***~~~~~

The Tenth Advice

My beloved Sister!
Hold fast onto this advice from me.
Sweet flowers will not blossom in your
life as long as you do not suppress your
wish for his pleasure. My dear Sister,
my darling! I bid farewell with these
words and give you in Allah's care.
May He make all steps in your life
good and preserve you from
all evil. (Ameen)

~~~~~***~~~~~


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justKhan22

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Re: 10 advices for a happy married life!
« Reply #1 on: Oct. 15, 2009, 12:46 AM »

nice advice fr the ladies
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JenBean71

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Re: 10 advices for a happy married life!
« Reply #2 on: Oct. 16, 2009, 06:06 AM »

Ok back to real life:

Treat a certain man like a king

and he'll treat his wife like the court jester

I've noticed an inherent desire in many women to please their husbands; they feel like they've failed if he's unhappy or unsatisfied. They try everything - even beyond the eyeliner and the perfume thing - for years - and after alll that,  the guy is still acting like a sissy but worse. His wife allowed him to cross that line.

Because his wife has reduced herself to a lowly failure who has run out of ways to please him.

This desire, if made a priority, can be destructive for both people. it's not good to make a guy's happiness the priority.

(Instead, a wife could think about what will make him a strong, loving, healthy Muslim man who can love his entire family, and then do what she needs to in order to support him in that pursuit.) Both are strong, both obey Allah and know the Quran, both are garments to one another, both should know..

Only Allah is al-Malik.

We are all responsible for a healthy marriage and to love ourselves and each other. When a guy spends  time insisting that his woman is responsible for his happiness, then he has no time left to love her. And she has no time for Allah.










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shez10

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Re: 10 advices for a happy married life!
« Reply #3 on: Oct. 17, 2009, 09:49 PM »

I remember some brother telling me this that there is a hadith of the Prophet (SAW) which is summarised as follows:

Women are made out of a man's ribs, they are bent so do not try to straighten them.....

someone further said...infact the beauty is in her being curved.

anyways i think its like any other relationship...give love fully and do not expect too much coz when we expect too much and we don't get according to the way we want, despite the other person trying her/his fullest, we feel hurt and arguments arise...so give love and feel happy by just giving it!!

hope i can put my own words to practice when i get the chance!

ciao
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Muslimah21

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Re: 10 advices for a happy married life!
« Reply #4 on: Oct. 18, 2009, 02:55 PM »

I dont like the advice... i mean especially number 3 i think. Non of your body should repluse him??? excuse meee. so we need to be perfect and be easy on the eye for him all our life?? What about girls who are over weight? women who have had children and lost thier figures? those who are older??? What about girls who are not stick insects. That is obsurred advice. I take offence. I am not slim at all and i am above avergae for wieght and size. And if my husband has a problem with what god gave me then he can go jump off a cliff lol. And why would he even approach me in the first place!  ::) ::) ::)

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JenBean71

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Re: 10 advices for a happy married life!
« Reply #5 on: Oct. 19, 2009, 04:23 AM »

LOL Muslimah21

I just find there should be more equality for the advice. We should treat each other as we would want to be treated and not abuse one another. Yeah and number 1 - lets see what this looks like when the tables are turned:

My beloved Brother!
Lead a life of contentment.
Be content even with simple food.
The dry bread and water,
which is eaten with contentment,
is better than a rich meal,
which is eaten after your persistant
complaints, forcing HER to
grudgingly provide it for you.

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