well yeah i agree. many of my family members think its ok to marry anyone as long as he prays, fasts and gives zakat... regardless of how he acts or anything else. its simple as for them.
when i tried to explain that i wanted more, someone who can implment the quran in his life and someone who is more knowladgable for me.. i was told i was being picky and unrealistic
cant win can i :S
I have had marriage proposals from moroccan men who knwo my family here and in morocco. but they are toooo realxed in thier deen. they just not who i can se emyself marrying, or beign with in 20 years time let alone becoming an old aged pensioner lol.
Always imagined being with someone who i can sit down with and discuss islamic issues, read hadith and quran with. learn more quran together. someone who can help me out becuase i struggle sometimes. :S
But also someone to do the normal stuff with.
And i am yet to meet someone who when i say to them my Ideal honeymoon is to go do Ummrah, they will agree with me. the few i have spoken too do not see that as a proper honeymoon. :S
Actually this guy who i am talking too doesnt have alot going for him in terms of materialstic things. Earns less then 15K, lives at home, but he is a nice person.
He isnt a bad person, but when we descussed about female male realtionships.. he said he would give that up when he got married. and he would only do it if his wife asked him. so he thinks its ok to be mates and chat on the phone to the opposite sex casually. thats what is troubling me.
Right now i am against the whole thing. just re evaluating things... i shouldnt make do. i know i may have high standards but they are high for good things and not bad things like doniya related.
Anywho, thank you for anwsering