If he hated Sunnis and hated the prophets wives why would he even approach me? LOL. He knows i am sunni and he is very open minded. He doesnt do Bidah/innovations. He is normal... he practices the deen correctly he has a strong sense of brotherhood with all muslims. He has more sunni freinds then shia. It's not like i went into this blindly like i said my best friend is shia and his family are in the same circule of friends as her and i know how they are in terms of practicing. iv known them for years now.
On ashura they dont go to the mosque they do remeberance at home. So i know they are not the type to beat themselves and to do extra non sunnah things.
yes it is a personal question... i am not seeking adivicethough, i just wanted to know what you guys think? Becuase already i have seen succesful marriages and the circle of friends i have are open minded and mix with different ethnicities and sects. Mashallah these are good muslims and who do not judge on ones background.
well no one is telling me to become shia... they want me to be muslim and thats what i am... that is why he likes me. He said i am very pure and open minded and he is the same. Alhamdulillah. He doesnt want to marry Shia... he tried and failed to find a bride from amongst them. He doesnt see the label as making them better people or worse. he just wants someone who practices full stop. nothing extra nothing less tabarkallah.
Like i said i already know we are suitable in deen and i know sects wouldnt make me change my mind unless he was an extremist. And beat himself and went over the top wailign and everything doing Bidah. You think my father would allow a man who does that to meet me?? you do not know my father he is super strict on these things...he wouldnt accept a man like that to come and approach me for marriage.
Allhamdulillah this is why its compulsary to have your parents involved in marriage. so they can guide you and filter the bad people out. And they have done there job tabarkallah. I didnt go behind thier backs and say "mum, dad im inlove with a shia and i dont have a clue how he practices" LOL. that is why my parents knew about him before me. ANd they told me what they think etc etc. So i am not doing this alone i have advisors... my parents alhamdulillah
The sunni brothers i have met like i said before i have had bad experinces with. Many i have told them inshallah i want to start wearing Abaya/jilbab and they freak out and say its too "islamic" and too "extreme". they dont want someone who shows thier deen they prefer it to be a secret. Thats not islam is it?? no.
No offence but i do not appreciate the advice you sought. I already know the answers to the questions.. he is not as you have been told. He is practicing islam with no innovations. I dont see how it is any of your buisness anyway. But i already checked this out. He practices better then i do! and propbably better then you. SO mashallah i am lucky to know such a brother and blessed to have a chance to meet him. We need more men like him in the world and less judgmental and narrow minded brothers!