@Sistergirl , that's a really clever way of invoking action from your peers. Maybe i should tell my folks i might become a male lesbian. .... oh wait! Thats not right! lol.
Anyway. Alhamdulillah, im so thankful that i've now got a good network of people i can speak to who are helping me, and ma'shallah my father was initially pre-occupied due to his work before, but now he has been able to help me, and that is very comforting.
I'm so impressed with my dad. He has realised very quickly that people are placing very superficial demands on potential suitors, and he even said in his own words that in many cases the parents are actually making the situation worse, and then the 'kids' feel pressured to follow suit. So im really glad that he has understood the situation very quickly.
and yesterday a brother called me to introduce me to someone, and we had a chat about things. He finally got married about 18 months ago after many years of searching. He told me two things that really made me think.
1) "Always discuss artificial scenarios with the other party, regardless of how trivial they may seem to get an indication of how they would react in a certain situation, even if you never tend to live out that scenario." he said this helps get a better understanding of the other person than asking them "What kind of a person are you" type questions. I thought that was an interesting way to do things.
2) He also said, that he always tries to remind his sisters (who are also now looking) that "go for the guy that will make you FEEL like a million dollars, and not the one that necessarily HAS a milllion dollars" - Again, interesting thought
Just thought i'd share ;-)