No. 1 DON’T MARRY TRAITOR-TRACTOR
"Among the people there are those who say ‘We believe in Allah and the Last day’, whereas they do not believe at all, they try to deceive Allah and the believers…" Q2 vs 8.
See, here, Allah is talking of those who claim to be Muslims in order to marry you, but they are destroyers like tractor or so called “caterpillar”. These are Muslims who do not stay where things are done rightly. They revel in crisis and see nothing good in what others do.
Just as a caterpillar can only destroy pillars but cannot build any, so these Brothers/sisters can only pull down.
If you attach them with a committee in a group, problem starts; when they join asalatu (prayer group) prayer ceases, as disputes had to be settled among members almost every week.
They are gossips and backbiters. They keep malice and are filled with unforgiving spirit, resentment and bitterness.
If you marry any of such people believing that after all he/she attends Islamic occasions you are invariably saying good-bye to your peace. In other word, I am warning you to watch out for a munaafiq (hypocrite) don’t marry them. See how Allah describes them:
“And when you look at them, their body pleases you (you think they are beautiful or handsome), and when they speak, you listen to their words (toasting you, promising you heaven and earth)….”. See Allah concludes “….They are worthless..”Q63:4
So, Allah is warning you before you make that choice of traitor who intend to deceive you. Please don’t deceive yourself by falling for such person. These days, it is not surprising that people deceive you, but the worse is when you deceive yourself. A man/lady that often cause disputes among brothers, a munaafiq or hypocrite should not be your own choice of partner. He/She is not a house-builder but a people-destroyer. He/she is a caterpillar, not a bricklayer. If you see these traits in your intended spouse, then is high time you look before you leap.
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“YOU CAN DECEIVE ANYBODY,
YOU CAN DECEIVE SOMEBODY
YOU CAN NOT DECEIVE EVERYBODY”