The best leader is the one who serves his community. The best husband is probably the one who serves his wife (rather than treat her as as of his possessions). You should carefully consider if your actions are for Allah, or for your own concepts of honor and pride.
um.... i thot niyyah was not a question here. the point was that some muslims are accomodating to western values, essentially not islamic ones, and some reverts or lets say born muslims do not understand a few things or are not ready to start doing something
would you not agree that not-watching movies and not-lisetining to music and not using these forms of *entertainment* would make your life hard? the point being most of us are sooo addicted and find it hard to go ahead and leave all these things.
let me make it more clear, its about taqwa, i hope now u get it.
It all depends on your intentions. If you are making it possible for your wife to increase her knowledge of deen, maintain her relationships with family and friends and be not burdened by matters related to earning an income, and she is happy with this, then I'd say mash'Allah.
in islam knowledge is what can be seen in practise. so its about going to the next level. some brothers or sisters may find it hard or may say they are not ready to do that just yet.
However, if you are trying to reaffirm your 'control' over her and making her a 'chaar dewaari' (someone confined within four walls), then you are perpetuating a tradition that has been adopted in the South Asian context from the aristocracy of the (then) non-Muslim Persian empire, where women were treated as possessions to be jealously guarded. I would suggest that you then think about the situation where you were in her shoes, and this was the scenario that you found yourself in, and would it make you happy or not... and then do that which is right, after your istikhaara and taking some mash'wara.
thankyou, that was really informative, the issue here is following what is strictly within Quran and Sunnah, of course women are allowed to go out, but when i posted the question i think it was not really hard to make out that it was about pardah which is from Quran and Sunnah and not the one you speak of and of course not the pardah which "pathans" have made up by theirselves and i agree sometimes or may be more of the time this imposed pardah is not about islam but about tribal and personal jealousy
mind you, guarding your spouse and having marital jealousy is healthy, but within bounds and not in the perimiters of doubting too much.
i hope i may have made things less complicated but it seems sisters are not interested in talking about this.