im sorry lol. yea u can do way better but heuristicaly speaking.
u ll only find such ppl really. or maybe someone young never married before around 18-25 but they d have their own problems.
Is there such a person with no problem? We all have faults, it's just up to other person to decide if it is a big deal for him/her or not.
Honestly speaking though, please don't take this the wrong way Nulady sis, many guys see a divorcee the same way they see second-hand clothes. They don't give the person a close enough look to get to know them. It's a subconscious process that you usually don't notice. This is personal opinion, no one has to agree or disagree but this is what I've noticed in many including myself at one point.
Anyways back to the topic, it seems to me that financial stability is very important to you as all the negatives you've posted are about that, except for a couple. If this is the case then Nulady sis I suggest you don't marry him.
However now a days, a college doesn't always guarantee you a job and not having a college degree does not make one a failure or financially unstable. An older gentleman who I used to work with had never finished college. I am not even sure if he had taken any college level courses. Anyways after years of doing odd jobs he decided he needs to find a better paying job so he goes to a community college, gets training for a job in 6 months, and after working at his job for nearly 2 decades he's making around 60k a year. At the same time, I have a cousin in Germany who finished his college degree in meteorology and did not have luck finding a job in Germany or London for over a year. He's back in college studying something else.
It really depends on the person, you have to get to know the person and see what kind of a guy he is. Is he the type that gives up quick? Are you positive that he will do whatever he can to support you? Will he be able to cope with the stress of not finding a job or you having a better job than him? Like brother "3bdiAllaah" said, you having a college degree might make him feel inferior. It all depends on how much trust you have in the person and I am not sure how much trust you can get or give to people whom you only know through the net.
Sorry I keep going on rants but yes I would say forget about this guy and find someone else.
lol at your findings on the net. Married and 4 kids, yet looking for another wife, amazing he still has the patience and energy to get married again.
Ameen to sister JenBean71's dua. May Allah give all of us what is best for us.