asalamu alaekum all
you may or may not have heard about Ibn Hazm
he was from al-andalus, and worked on romantic psychology from an islamic perspectivehis book "at-tawq al 7hammah" meaning "the ring of the dove" is a great resource on love and islam
The views of Ibn Hazm on Love.
ü He has a philosophy about love, he believes that souls are scattered in the air and when they meet, they feel love.
ü The theory of love is based on similar characteristics. Al hubbil hudri (the love that is humble and not lustful).
ü The first part is jesting and the last part is right earnestness.
ü Love is neither disapproved by Religion nor prohibited by law for every heart is in God’s hands
ü Love is not about physical attraction but it starts with it. Love just happens; it is natural.
ü The noble love – passions of heart with righteousness and piety
ü Nature of love – conjunction between scattered parts of souls that have met in universe
ü Loves is based on assimilations and similarity in characteristics
ü Physical attraction not very important, but it is what leads love
ü Try to find natural attributes that you both share
ü He takes the literal meaning of things…..In this book he was looking for noble love not lustful love
ü Love is halal, for every heart is in Allah’s hands
ü Love is a sickness, ailment; its remedy depends on the degree of their love
ü Ibn Hazm says that love is natural, but can Allah test us with this?
o Yes, Allah always tests us to see our obedience in him
ü Does Ibn Hazm agree with “opposites attract”?
o Yes, these characteristics are like having similarities in love.
o Ex. Hold a snowball in your hand and it will still have the same effect as holding a burning coal.
ü In conclusion, you will not find two people in love unless there are some similarities. Humans are born perfect and you are attracted to the perfection of the person
the fiqh of love link.http://www.angelfire.com/linux/nxz4/F_Love.html
the ring of the dove.http://www.muslimphilosophy.com/hazm/dove/ringdove.html