Assalamu alaykum Sarah,
Jazak'Allah khair for those points. Being as I made the initial comments, I think I'll take this opportunity to respond. And please forgive me in advance for the way this comes across, this is not an attack on you... just the ideas you seek to propagate. Insha'Allah, you'll understand the point behind it.Are men attracted to hair
Speaking as a man... yes, we are! You don't see many women shaving their heads bald for beauty purpose, but for men it's quite acceptable. As a woman, I don't expect for you to fully appreciate this in the same sense as we do, much like how we'll never appreciate the pain of menstrual cramps. But, in general, the hair is a large part of the beauty of a woman. Take our word for it!The hijab
Yes, Allah (swt) has made the covering of a woman mandatory through verses in the Qur'an. The debate of hijab vs. niqab is far too detailed to go into right now, both opinions have strong arguments to support them (I lean toward niqab myself). But, suffice to say, all the scholars are agreed that the woman should present herself in a modest manner. I've read your comment on several times and whilst your point isn't clear, it seems you're saying that women are supposed to wear niqab, but they don't in the west, so we should "get real". I'm still confused as to what the point is, regardless of whether the ayat refers to a niqab or hijab, you're not wearing either??
The thing that gets me though is statements like "my deen is important to me", yet the sister (not you specifically, I've come across many) don't wear hijab, don't pray, and don't do a lot of things they're supposed to as Muslimahs, yet they want to hang on to the label? To be a Muslim requires action, not just internal belief alone.
'Muslim' literally means "one who submits [to Allah (swt)]", so the question is, do you submit to His will, or your own desires?Your religiousity
Fine, I'll accept the article may be twisted without your permission, but you presented yourself to the photographer without a niqab/hijab on, despite complaining in your own words "I have a lot of Islamic knowledge" and "If you research the definition of modesty and hijab in our religious texts, it actually requires for you to wear a chadar". For me that represents either a contradiction, or wilful disobedience to the commandments of Allah.Women & parties
Actually, there is a lot of things wrong with listening to music... suffice for me to point you in the direction of Kamel el Mekki's lecture "The End of Music" (you can download it here: http://muslimmatters.org/2008/05/14/the-end-of-music/
). Don't go for the shortened YouTube version, that link will provide you with the full lecture, and the main refutations are in the second part.
With regards to your claim that the Prophet (saw) not objecting to girls having parties, I assume you're referring to the single incident I know of which supports this, which is the incident of A'isha and a slave girl singing on the Day of Eid. Kamel el Mekki refutes this very strongly showing it's an argument *against* music! I won't spoil the lecture for you by telling you how, let's see if you're willing to invest the couple of hours to learn the real status of music! Given that you "have a lot of Islamic knowledge", I'm guessing you like listening to lectures of this nature, so it shouldn't be a problem, insha'Allah
And regarding music, it's also permissible for women to play the duff on their wedding night (and bear in mind, in the shariah, the night precedes the day, so don't get the wrong night...), but I don't think you're attending these parties on a regular basis, so that doesn't count. There is also no recorded disagreement of the Companions on the issue of music, there is complete consensus that it's haraam! Not one of the four main madahib say that music is halal.
In short, my sister in Islam, I personally take issue when sisters say their deen is important to them, or they say they have a lot of Islamic knowledge, etc, yet the things they do, the opinions they hold, and the statements they make clearly contradict this. It gives a bad name to Islam, and also reduces the status of those people who actually hold fast to the rope of Allah."I am a good person"
I just want to clarify the definition of a "good person", if I may. Good and bad are subjective qualities, what one person perceives as good may be perceived as bad by another (classic example is practically everything in the west vs. everything in the east). Therefore we need an objective measure, and that measure is Allah, since His is the only opinion that counts! Therefore, to claim you are a good person, you should measure yourself against His criteria. Do you read the Qur'an, do you follow the sunnah, do you avoid the haraam, etc, etc. If so, then you can say you are "good", insha'Allah, but for you to know you need to seek real knowledge.
And as far as I can see (and yes, I know imaan is in the heart, but if you study Islam properly, there are a lot of rulings on how you present yourself too to confirm your deen), you have a cultural understanding of Islam, rather than anything from pure classical sources (i.e. the Qur'an and sunnah, as opposed to hearsay and idle chitter-chatter).
I invite you to learn more, there are lots of really good resources available, and if you are sincere, then insha'Allah Allah will make it easy for you. But until then, please leave these silly cultural values behind. They will bring you no benefit at all. Or at least stop confusing them with Islam. There are some points where they're compatible, yes I agree (honesty, trustworthiness, etc), but cultural values will never supercede Islamic values so it's better to concentrate on one, rather than mix the two and dilute that which Allah (swt) and His messenger have brought.
Anything correct I have said is from Allah, and anything wrong is from Shaytan. And I hope you take my statements in the true purpose in which they're meant. I don't know you to attack you, and I do wish you all the best as my sister in Islam, but I also cannot sit on the sidelines and accept what are clearly cultural values being passed of as something Islam accepts and condones... otherwise my Lord will question me as to why I didn't point it out, and I fear Him more than I fear your anger.
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatuLlah