I had voted for the meal option in your other poll. The reason for that is because I feel the whole walima business takes away from the...I can't think of the word I want to use...the specialness(that's not it but it will have to do) of the day. Instead of spending tens of thousands of dollars on just that one day, I would rather spend that money for a house, charity, investment, the honeymoon, etc. I admit that it's important for the families and it's a great way for the two families to bond but that can be done just as well by having them over for dinner or both families going on a trip. I would much rather enjoy that sort of a walima than the usual ceremonies we have today.
By the way, by families I don't mean nucleur families but cousins, uncles, aunts, etc. as well. Alhumdulillah I have about 40 members in my extended family and I'd assume she'd have around that or more possibly in hers so it will be a nice big group inshAllah.
The people who have been through marriage, do you think this is a good idea? Because now that I have it written down, I am starting to think of soo many things that could go wrong lol.