Choosing a spouse
Choosing a marriage partner is perhaps the most serious decision you will ever make in your life. This decision needs to be made with utmost care and caution, repeatedly seeking guidance from Allah.
The most important characteristics that one should look for in a spouse should be based on similarity.
1-Similarity in Religion & Good Character and Behaviour:
The Prophet (s.a.w) said: "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser."
And he said as well "If someone with whose piety and character you are satisfied with comes to you, then marry him. If you do not do so, there will be disorder in the earth and a great deal of evil."
Character is of extreme importance in Islam and goes hand in hand with faith and piety.
2- Educational background:
It is recommended to marry someone who has a similar level of education. In this way couples are more likely to have agreements and less likely to have disputes.
3- Cultural and family background:
This includes closeness in parent's background and life-style.
There is no specific rule for this matter; however, it is recommended that man’s age exceeds the woman’s age.
5- Materialistic level:
It is preferable that closeness in materialistic conditions should exist between the two families, as a difference in this condition might cause a tension between them.
In addition to what was mentioned above beauty is a characteristic that has a certain role to play since one of the purposes of marriage is to keep both spouses attracted to each other.
Both the bride and groom should be pleased with one another, and not forced into marriage, because the Prophet (s.a.w) said: No previously-married woman (widow or divorcee) may be married until she has been asked about her wishes (i.e., she should state clearly her wishes), and no virgin should be married until her permission has been asked (until she has agreed either in words or by remaining silent). They asked, O Messenger of Allah, how is her permission given (because she will feel very shy). He said: By her silence. (Reported by al-Bukhaari)
When reading the above i was pretty shocked at what i had seen. They have made the criteria a list, for choosing a spouce, only one of which comes from the prophet SAW. The rest are obviously put togther by a muslim who is very cultural. I can not believe they would include these points.... when they are personal, cultural and not based on islamic values what so ever.
I am very dissapointed with The muslim directoy....