ok, I'll try to explain...
We guys are not very smart, but we think we are
, and we therefore don't like it when someone tries to show us the tough reality.
That said, it doesn't mean that we are always wrong, we can be right sometimes, but we will always assume that we are right and that we know better. Therefore, when an argumant errupts, we like the woman who will make us feel we are right even though we may be wrong.
I personally wouldn't call that an "obedient" woman, I would call that a "smart" woman, one who knows what makes us tick. And of course, since we aren't that smart anyway, we will be so thrilled to be victorious after an argument that a smart woman will take advantage of this to make us do whatever she wants
In short, an obedient woman in my view is the one who knows how to navigate around arguments so that the man wouldn't feel like he lost his ego, and she would end up getting what she wants anyway.
But hey, I am a guy, which means I may not be that smart to answer this question.. Besides, I am not looking for an "obedient" woman anyway!