@ Hamza81, I am not only blaming men for the problems on that site, the admin is asking our opinion of the site and I gave mine. Since I am a woman I have not looked through women profiles on the site, I have seen a lot of women on there that have inappropriate pictures, but to be honest I have never read another woman's profile. That's why I gave my experience with the site in regards to the men, based on the male profiles I've read and the contact that I had with them. That's why we have this forum of both male and female members so we can get both sides. I was talking to my brother in law a month or so ago, he is trying to look out and help me find a husband. When he started thinking about brothers he knew, he mentioned one in particular. Then I asked more about this brother, his Islam etc. He said that he prays and fasts, goes to Jummah, but mentioned that he is kinda dating someone (while looking for a Muslim wife). I said well I dont want a brother who is out there dating! He said he dosent know of any single brothers that are just abstinent
while looking for a wife. They are going to date and have girlfriends until they find the right sister to marry. This was disheartening to hear, I know all men are not like that, but for my brother in law to not be able to think of one was sad. And these are educated brothers that he knows from the mosque.
I also know of a few sisters (personally) that have gotten married, and their husband had not broken up with his girlfriend before marrying them (they did not know). So they were married to their Muslim wives and still having relationship with the girlfriend. In one case the wife and girlfriend were pregnant at the same time. Of course these marriages did not last. But there are too many of these stories, that's whats sad. My brother -in -law before marrying my sister used to go to the online sites, he said that some Muslim women on there are really bad. He didn't go into any real details so I'm not real familiar with the sisters behavior, but I can imagine it gets just as bad. I wish there was a way for single Muslims who sincerely are ONLY
wanting to get married (not date, be friends or have a relationship) to get together. The only way I've seen is through friends and family, the men in my family work very slowly. But it's a much better route than the other options out there. I am not trying to male bash (never)
, I know some very admirable wonderful Muslim brothers, (have some in my family) and I know they are out there and am hoping to find one for myself.