I am from Pakistan and want to marry this guy whose mother is dead set against allowing him to marry me. She says that girls studying in co-education colleges are of bad character, and their sole purpose is to 'trap' the guys and snatch them away from their families. She is the strongest person in his family, and everyone even his father has to oblige to her commands and wishes. He's been trying to convince her to let him marry me with her consent for about 4 years now, but she doesn't budge. The funny thing is that she hasn't even seen me, or met my family. She is relying her judgement on preconceived notions and stories that most women in Pakistan usually make just to chit-chat in their free time!!!
According to whatever I have read about getting married in Islam, what this lady says is totally unjustifiable, and is not a reason to go against me. My parents know this guy, but want his parents' involvement and consent in the wedding. At the same time, they also know that time is running out for me, and though they cannot force me to marry anyone else, they would want me to get married to this guy as soon as I could. For this reason, and seeing that I do not want to marry anyone else, my parents recently told me that even if his parents do not agree, they would help him get married to me.
His mother has practically disowned him; his father and other family members won't talk to him. Life is more difficult for him than me these days. Despite being totally committed to me, he also feels that he would lose everyone else, which is very natural under the circumstances.
Now that I know that my parents are at my side, I find myself at a crossroads; on the one hand, there's this guy who is very dear to me, and on the other hand I think ahead about the void that he will feel after he marries me because there would be nobody from his family in the wedding. Please do not forget that I am living in Pakistan and will get married there. In Pakistan people have to answer to others about everything whether they like it or not. In addition, I think about the troubles my parents would have to go through to make this happen.
I don't know what to do. I need a dua, a solution, anything to make things right, as I don't want to marry him without his family's taking part in the wedding.
Please help me.