Aha, I would defo agree with you Jannah! Alot of agro can be avoided if the simple procedure of checking out someones background thoroughly is carried out, especially for someone who has been divorced.
But what I noticed is that you get some people who blindly just accept the words of a divorcee, without verifying it with others and then they end up in one helluva soup, and then you get some people out there who immediately write off a divorcee, just coz of their status, without bothering to check out the exact details of their split. Both are sad cases.
In all honesty, Im divorced, not once but twice....which would make me what? a double divorcee or something?? LOL I dunno, but what I find really strange is that I have received more interest from people now, then when I was single, and that too from guys who have never been married and who are even younger than myself, this reassures me, that there are more people out there in the world who don't just see us as '2nd hand products' or 'used merchandise' (I really heard people saying this stuff!!), they rather take into account the person for who they are and not for what they done.
Right! I have said a lot in favour of divorced folks, but I should mention a word of caution here when considering someone from my side of the fence!
There are a few divorcees who haven't quite come to terms with their experiences, so they walk around with a whole lot of emotional baggage and are ready to dump it on their new marriage which only spells a miserable life for both parties involved. The only way to find out is to get to know them well.
Acceptance would be the key here, for the divorcee, he/ she should accept & acknowledge their past and be willing to move on, and for the other half, acceptance of their potential spouse's past and also a willingness to move on and create a future without looking back too often would result in happiness Inshallah!
So yeh, a little info coming right out of the mouth of the horse lol
(Oh btw, I can say those words above coz Im part of the gang yeh :p)