I have been looking to get married for a while, and i decided to try out a marriage site, muslima.com. i met someone on there about a year ago. we spoke for ages on the site. he is egyptian and lives in egypt. i am algerian but live in england. we spoke about every aspect of marriage, and talked about how we would deal with the distance and what we should do.
i later found out, well 3 months ago that his parents still do not know about me. my parents know i talk to him as friends for now, although they know my intention and i have told them it.
He said he will tell his parents when my father accepts his proposal to me. he want to come to england and meet my family and get to know them, and if my father agrees he will then tell his parents about me. his other family memebers know such as his brother and sisters. but i know he is worried about his parents becuase i am not egyptian.
we get on so well, and wallah in the year we have known each other he has never ever once spoken to be with disrespect, or said anything inappropriate. we have spoken on the phone and we have used web cam a few times. although i am very aware i do not know him 100% and he knows that to. since i have known him he has helped me learn alot about islam, we debate alot about many things in islam. hadiths etc. we laugh and joke to.
The thing is he told me he loved me, although i have feelings for him, i told him that it was not love becuase we dont know each other 100% and i am a ture believer that love come after marriage.
we talk most evenings when he finishes work and i finish university. he is a mechanical engineer with a masters and has his own flat next to his parents. he really wants me to move to egypt if we were to get married.
it all sounds nice, and inshallah all is as it seems. but like i said i am worried about him not telling his parents. i hope it wont be hard. but allah allam. i just make dua in the mean time.
i would like some advice from people who dont know me, as i knwo that you will be alot more honest with me.