And what about Hijab also?
In my own experience, sisters run a mile when i mention this.
Do you consider that the Wife should be wearing hijab, or you think it should be a choice.....or.......?
Again we are guided by Islam when looking for a spouse. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) has told us when you are looking for a wife to choose one who is pious, or you will be a loser in this life and the next. To answer your question, yes she should be wearing hijab, and you should not consider her if she doesn't. If the sisters run a mile away when you mention hijab, you should run two miles away in the other direction. I may sound harsh but when I was talking about this whole hijab/marriage debate with my big sister she confirmed what I was thinking.
As we thought about the sisters we knew, from growing up, sisters that are our friends, sisters in the family etc. of these women who do not wear hijab most
of them also do not pray
. If a sister does not cover, I have never seen one who carries a scarf with her to pull it out when it's time to pray. If a sister cannot be faithful to her Lord and Creator what makes you think she will be faithful to you? If she has no dialogue with Allah, where is her fear of Allah? What keeps her from committing more haram? It is unfortunate that in society modesty is so frowned upon, be we are Muslim first and have to adhere to our faith.
In regards to the dowry's/mahr you are talking about, I think it is primarily cultural and not Islamic. Doesn't it say in Islam the best dowry is a simple dowry? I would stay away from all those $$$ high dowry seekers when trying to find a spouse. Again Muslims are focusing on the wrong things. None
of the women in my family asked for high dowry's, and plenty of them are happily married. ( and they are beautiful and could have asked for a high amount) But that is not how we were raised. I personally asked my ex-husband that he teach me to read Quran, that was my dowry when I was married before. He chose to give me gold and other gifts, because in his culture it's like you kinda shower the bride with gifts. I didnt ask for those things though, and didnt know I was getting them until the day before the wedding. There are many many sisters who are not materialistic, will marry a man who doesnt have the best income but he is in school and trying to establish himself, I know so (most of my friends and fam) many women who will definitely work with a brother and dont have these high unrealistic standards. They are the women that the Prophet (PBUH) recommended for you.