Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
|[MADRASA] What is Mahr?|
|07/09/01 at 03:15:56|
|Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, beloved Sisters and |
I`m from Brazil and I`m going to marry in February,Insha`Allah ...
As I embrace Islam last Ramadan there are some things I still don`t know, and
there are no Muslims in my city ... :(
As Faraqan also embraced Islam ( weren`t Muslim since his childhood), there are
somethings we don`t know ... I would like to know about Mahr : is he whom choose
it or I have participation on it ??? How we do that ??? And mainly, what is the
best gift to ask him ???
Jazaka`Allahu khairan !!!
for Allah(SWT), your Sister
|10/25/00 at 21:04:32|
Cool, I have always wanted to meet a hispanic muslim. not that this is meeting, but still, i have never come across one on the net either. :)
mahr is the husband's gift to his wife. He can give however much he wants to according to his capacity, and that which will make his wife happy i guess.
|10/26/00 at 08:19:06|
From Islam Questions and Answers:Assalamualaikum,
I would like to know the Islamic view point of Dowry. Is it permisible or is it a sin? If it is wrong, what should a person do who has taken dowry?
Praise be to Allaah.
In Islam the mahr (dowry) is one of the rights of the wife, which is hers to take in total and is lawful for her, in contrast to the widespread practice in some countries, where the wife is given no dowry. Evidence that the wife must be given her dowry is found in many places, for example the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “And give to the women (whom you marry) their mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]
Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “This refers to the mahr (dowry).”
Ibn Katheer, may Allaah have mercy on him, said, summarizing the comments of the mufassireen on this aayah: “The man must definitely pay the dowry to the woman, and he should not resent it.”
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “But if you intend to replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a cantar (of gold, i.e., a great amount) as mahr, take not the least bit of it back; would you take it wrongfully without a right and (with) a manifest sin? And how could you take it (back) when you have gone in unto each other, and they have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?” [al-Nisaa’ 4:20-21]
Ibn Katheer, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: “This means: if any one of you wants to divorce his wife and replace her with another, you should not take anything from what you have already given the first wife, even if it was a huge amount of wealth. The mahr is given in exchange for the right to enjoy marital relations. For this reason Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And how could you take it (back) when you have gone in unto each other…?” The “firm and strong covenant” is the marriage contract.
Anas ibn Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and there were traces of yellow (perfume) on him. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked him about it, and he told him that he had just married a woman of the Ansaar. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked him, “How much did you give her?” He said: “Gold equal to the weight of one date stone.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Give a waleemah (wedding feast) even if only with one sheep.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4756).
The mahr is the right of the wife, and it is not permitted for her father or anyone else to take it except with her approval. Abu Saalih said: “When a man married off his daughter, he would take her mahr away from her, but Allaah forbade them to do that, and gave women the right to the mahr they received.” (Tafseer Ibn Katheer).
Similarly, if the wife foregoes any part of the mahr, the husband is permitted to take it, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful).” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]
And Allaah knows best.
|10/26/00 at 11:02:35|
|Wa'alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh,|
The amount of mahr is something that both sides must agree upon. It is part of the marriage contract. So it is not only the groom's decision, but also the bride's (and/or her walee's).
This is why when then qaadee says the famous words "do you accept?" he precedes them by saying "along with such and such amount of mahr."
|10/27/00 at 08:07:45|
|I alwayz thought that the mahr did not have to be money ... i mean if both sides agreed on it or if this is what the woman wanted [that is, something other than money] ??|
|10/27/00 at 10:04:52|
Yes, this is my understanding too.
A friend of mine asked for a sewing machine!
From BukahriVolume 7, Book 62, Number 79:
Narrated Sahl bin Sad As-Sa'idi:
While I was (sitting) among the people in the company of Allah's Apostle a woman stood up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! She has given herself in marriage to you; please give your opinion of her." The Prophet did not give her any reply. She again stood up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! She has given herself (in marriage) to you; so please give your opinion of her. The Prophet did not give her any reply. She again stood up for the third time and said, "She has given herself in marriage to you: so give your opinion of her." So a man stood up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! Marry her to me." The Prophet asked him, "Have you got anything?" He said, "No." The Prophet said, "Go and search for something, even if it were an iron ring." The man went and searched and then returned saying, "I could not find anything, not even an iron ring." Then the Prophet said, "Do you know something of the Quran (by heart)?" He replied, "I know (by heart) such Sura and such Sura." The Prophet said, "Go! I have married her to you for what you know of the Quran (by heart)."
Individual posts do not necessarily reflect the views of Jannah.org, Islam, or all Muslims. All trademarks and copyrights on this page are owned by their respective owners. Comments are owned by the poster and may not be used without consent of the author.The rest © Jannah.Org