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|[MADRASA] Peer pressured into denying that he is muslim because of feeling threatened|
|07/14/01 at 01:41:08|
|AssalamAlay.com, (HeHe HiMy)|
My best friend (Muslim), I myself am not. While we were at another friends house together, we were chattibg with her mom (she is very racist),
She snapped at my bestfriend saying "Youre not muslim, are you?" all eyes were on him, his face bright red, didnt know what to say, so out of feeling pressured he blurted out "no,no of coursenot." If he said yes there is no telling what could have happened. Did he do the right thing????????
He regrets saying no, i have so much respect for him, because of who he is and how he carries his self as a muslim. I have learned so much, and hopefully (if with my parents permission) i will be a Muslim cat myself. :)
|Re: peer pressured Answer|
|01/29/01 at 21:27:59|
Walay AsalamAlay.com Liz :-)
I would say he did the RIGHT thing.
He was a guest at the place in question.
To diffuse, calm down, prevent difficulty
for others, discretion and patience are needed.
Later, perhaps MUCH later, when a person hears
that they had offended someone with their words
They may come to realize, understand, and
appreciate that that person exercised patience
and avoiding perhaps not only an argument but
a tense situation.
The Qur'an tells us, I would even say personally
WARNS us that,
"There is NO COMPULSION in Religion."
You can't force anyone to Islam.
You can't argue anyone to Islam.
You can't Logic anyone to Islam.
You can't PREACH anyone to Islam.
You can't bribe anyone to Islam.
All one can do, is present Islam, and then
Release them from the conversation.
Seeking NO Agreement whatsoever from the
Islam is Islam.
You can't argue that the sky is plaid.
It ain't. And no matter how much one tries
to "Sky Dawah" me that it's plaid, I ain't
Seeking agreement is a type of insecurity.
That to validate MY point, You MUST agree with it.
That is 'Force in Religion' eh?
The fact that The Girl's Mother raised her tone
in a defensive measure and accusationary point
confirms that the conversation had already gone
Qur'an was not revealed in a day.
Presenting islam is Not VoiceMail.
"Press 1 to be a Muslim or 0 for the Operator"
Sometimes, Dawah conversations end up like that.
Don't bring up Islam again until your friend
brings it up by herself for the time being.
I better now Press "Post"
Your Bro in T.O. Toronto Ontario,
~ 4469! ~ (look on your telephone keypad)
|Re: peer pressured question|
|01/30/01 at 13:48:33|
Perhaps your friend can go back at a later date and clarify his statement. I mean correct it.
Himy referred to you as females but you are males right ???
|Re: peer pressured question|
|01/30/01 at 14:09:15|
Well, I am not sure I understand fully what liz is recounting here. From what I gather, her friend decided to deny that he is muslim because of feeling threatened. We are not here to judge wrong or right. But my advice is that there is nothing wrong with staying coolly silent instead of vehemently denying, back paddling or apologizing for one's religion.
And by posting this, I am officially a madia geek :( (>100 posts already!) I miss being a plain citizen!
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