Madinat al-Muslimeen Islamic Message Board
|02/01/01 at 18:37:05|
|I wonder why its so difficult to find someone to marry in the |
US... there should be some sort of place where people of the opposite
sex can meet and talk. From what I understand, there's nothing wrong
with this as long as there's no one alone... right now its too tough...
i'd love to hear what others have to say about this topic.
|02/02/01 at 09:52:14|
I don't really have an answer to this, but its definitely a problem - especially for people who want to marry but stay within the bounds of Allah's law in the process of finding a partner.
One the thing that makes this problem more acute is the lack of being in a community, or having a community feel with local Muslims - and if it isn't addressed it'll have a worse impact when our kids want to marry.
What i mean is that there is a phenomenon found amongst practising brothers (i don't know about sisters) that they'll have known each other for years and years, yet never have they once hosted each other for dinner inside their homes. How come?
If we don't get people meeting like this, and visiting each other, then how will we build the community contacts making it easier for marriage amongst the next generation?
PS Muslims are pretty much dispersed in where they live across America (from what i hear), so that adds to the problem.
|02/05/01 at 12:46:26|
No don't think that you will find this phenomenon amongst the sisters that much. yeah, my brothers don't bring their friends to our home either, unless no one's home.
there are some exceptions, with people that they have known since childhood and so we all grew up playing together. i don't think that that will solve the problem however.
cuz as brother himy pointed out guys mess up and then their parents snatch unsuspecting girls from back home. the poor girls wait for someone longer than the brothers do.
anyway, that's my observation
i have really busy so i haven't had the time to post that much lately. i think i better go now in a few minutes.
by the way, how come i still can't sign in from home? i get some numbers instead of jannah.org/board name in the address thing? i have tried everything. am i the only one having problems still?
rgith now i'm posting from college.
|02/05/01 at 13:43:03|
[quote]by the way, how come i still can't sign in from home? i get some numbers instead of jannah.org/board name in the address thing? i have tried everything. am i the only one having problems still?
i think everyone can post now? ??? try doing a refresh.
|02/05/01 at 13:51:05|
|dump your cache and restart your computer and try again...|
|02/05/01 at 17:37:06|
i have done everythig and more. ???
|02/05/01 at 17:47:26|
Clear your URL history. I don't remember the option in Netscape but in IE go into Tools->Internet Options and then click on clear history. While you are there click on delete files also. Then close all your browsers and start them again.
If this doesn't work buy a new computer! j/k. Well, you then have a good excuse :)
|03/22/01 at 23:18:32|
Yes, it is very hard to find someone to get married to, especially in this time of day and especially in the US. Muslims indulge themselves in the Earthly goods and forget that they have to work for the hereafter. When they get off track, they lose themselves and don't take Islam seriously. That is one of the biggest questions that a person who is trying to get married faces. If they do find the right person, will they be a committed and practicing Muslim, or will they go the other way. Sometimes, people assume the wrong thing. The other party may show that they are practicing and good from the outside appearence, but from the inside, they are too attached to this world.
So, it is difficult but may Allah help those who are looking for the right companion.
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