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|07/30/02 at 13:22:59|
|Why is that some people are not consistent in their behaviour and their manners |
of conduct. I know that iman increases and decreases and that as humans were created
weak. I am under the impression that if there is any change then it should be minimal. But
how do you explain it when someone is all good and pious one day and on the next they are
so evil they are on the other end of the spectrum. I have seen my share of transformers
and nothing pleases me more than staying away from them. I am I right in thinking this way?
|07/30/02 at 15:21:40|
The Prophet (saw) told about the inconsistency of man in this hadith:
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said: Be prompt in doing good deeds (before you are overtaken) by turmoil, which would be like a part of the dark night. During (that stormy period) a man would be a believer in the morning and an unbeliever in the evening or he would be a believer in the evening and an unbeliever in the morning, and would sell his faith for worldly goods.  Sahih Muslim
There is a footnote at the bottom of the page that says: There would be no stability in the faith of man. Faith would become cheaper as compared to the material benefits and would be freely bartered for worldly gains.
Wa Allahu Alim.
|07/30/02 at 16:27:20|
I just wanted to add to what I already posted…
Here are two hadiths that show we should choose good friends. But don’t forget that at the same time we need to be making dawah too.
On the authority of Abu Musa Al-Ash’ari that he heard the Messenger of Allah (saw) saying: The similitude of good company and that of bad company is that of the owner of musk and of the one blowing bellows (iron-smith), and the owner of musk would either offer you free of charge or you would buy it from him or you would smell its pleasant odour, and as far as one who blows the bellows is concerned, he would either burn your clothes or you shall have to smell its repugnant smell. (agreed upon)
On the authority of Abu Huraira who reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah (saw) saying: A man follows his friend’s religion, so each one should consider whom he makes his friend. (At-Tirmithi and Abu Dawud) AlBaani made hasan-(good)
|07/30/02 at 22:52:33|
|as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatAllah,|
Hmm.. Anonymous, the thing is, human beings are not simple creatures, and a person's reasons for doing certain things may not be as cut and dry as we think. There could be a lot of different reasons behind why a person would behave in the way you described.. that behavior may be rooted in hypocrisy, in which case it's understandable to want to avoid and be wary of that person.. but it may also be that the person is just starting to become more active in Islam, and is struggling.. and in struggling it's very easy to go into extremes, before finding a balance.
A very cool analogy I've heard used to describe those new to Islam (either recently converted or those just coming into practicing) is a pendelum.. there's a tendency to swing to the extremes before finding a moderate and balanced state.
Just something to think about :)
|07/30/02 at 23:07:53|
|07/31/02 at 06:08:38|
|Someone told me that Shaytaan works harder on those people who try to get closer to Allah, using every trick in the book to take them off the right and truthful path. |
Bro se7en was absolutely spot on when he said that human beings are not simple creatures. If a muslim is pious and good one minute and then "bad" the next, they can still return, it depends if they want to return and also if Allah favours them by giving them the taufeeq and hedyaah to do so. I've seen muslims like that too and although I agree on keeping good company I do think that care and attention should be directed to those who are "temporarily off the path." Be practising and don't let one's guard down, Inshallah if we are good then it could have some influence on them. Take it from me, the best dawah is to practise what we preach, because I used to get annoyed by muslims telling me this and that and I did not see any change in their own behaviour.
P.S. Keep making dua for them by name.....
|07/31/02 at 16:20:57|
|[quote]Bro se7en [/quote]|
:o :o :o
se7en = :-)
wasalaamu alaykum :)
|07/31/02 at 18:58:15|
|Your face is a bit blue, feeling the cold?? :)|
|08/01/02 at 02:20:30|
|Anonymous...I know EXACTLY how you feel. I've been dissapointed by some more than I can tell you! I have a personal saying which is "before you're Muslim, you're a man". It's a harsh reality but people are in the end -- only human. We should never expect too much of others. It hurts in the beginning but then you become numb and start to understand human behavior a little better. These kinds of things make you wiser, so accept them and know they are just a test from Allah (swt). Once you realize that, you won't give a hoot anymore about their ill manners/behaviors. But always be the one to give nasiha (islamic advice) and be forgiving for Allah (swt) is most forgiving. :-)|
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