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|09/20/02 at 10:02:15|
I request you to pray for my brother( who is also a memember of this board),who is
currently suffering from an acute bout of depression.
Mau Allah swt give him and all the people of the ummah shifa
|Re: Duaa Needed|
|09/21/02 at 14:16:36|
I hope and pray that your beloved ones are fine and our dear bro gets better soon By His Mercy and Endless Grace.
Here is a couple of "suggestions",
Tell him that some of his brothers and sisters are
thinking of him in their duas.
Tell him to try to keep his wuduh as much as possible.
Keep on repeating Aya Al Kursi as much as possible.
Keep on repeating this duas Constantly and his tongue moist with His Remembrance,
Allahumma inni a'oodhoo bika
minal-hammi walhuzni, wal-'ajzi
wal-kasali wal-bukhli wal-jubni,
wa dal'id-dayni wa ghalabatir- rajaal
O Allah! I seek refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow,
weakness and laziness,
miserliness and cowardice,
the burden of debts and from being oppressed by men
And this other dua
Allahumma rahmataka arjoo falaa
takilnee ilaa nafsee tarfata
'aynin wa aslih-lee sha'nee
kullahu, laa ilaha illa anta
O Allah! It is Your mercy that I hope for so do not leave me in charge of my affairs
even for a blink of an eye and rectify for me all of my affairs.
None has the right to be worshipped except You.
Insh'Allah by His Shiffa', our dear bro we'll get better soon. ;-)
" Our prayers of forgiveness need many prayers of forgiveness "
|Re: Duaa Needed|
|09/22/02 at 19:21:05|
|Dear Anonyomous, |
I do not dare add to the fine words of prayer which "alzinjibar" has written, however, with your kind indulgence, I would like to interject if I may...
I too have struggled with this Fiend DEPRESSION for a few years and have come to realize that God uses this as an opportunity to bring me closer to Him ( "...verily in the remembrence of All‚h do hearts find rest. " Ar-Ra'd, v. 28 ) In my weakness, He shows His strength...
Nevertheless, do not discount the importance of communication with and the companionship of others. It might seem like a humiliating thing to confess to others that one has reached a point at which all coping mechanisms seem to have vanished. It is not. This is the time that one partakes of and revels in the strength of others. Out of meek confessions, come an abundance of prayers, and from these prayers, empowerment...
If I may be so bold, I might also add that there are a number of medicinal and alternative therapies which can be of great assistance in the fight...I believe that part of God's armour is knowledge, and we must have sufficient knowledge to recognize when we need "outside" intervention, and the courage to seek it out.
Again, I do hope, most sincerely, that I have not overstepped my bounds...
Thank you for sharing your concerns...
We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
" Verily, along with every hardship is relief..."
Ash - Sharh, v. 5
" Who never ate his bread in sorrow, who never sat
through the sorrowful nights weeping on his bed,
he knows you not, you heavenly Powers. "
Goethe, " Wilhelm Meisters Lehrajahre, " II, xiii †
|09/22/02 at 19:22:18|
|"Modern Stress And Its Cure From Qur'an"|
|09/23/02 at 12:47:28|
I am really sorry to hear about your brother's sickness. Alzinjibar and addison has Masallah posted very informative messages regarding Depression. Here is an aritical regarding Depression by Shahid Athar , M.D. I hope this would help your brother in some way to overcome his depression. Inshallah.
May Allah keep all of us in his safe hands. Ameen
"Modern Stress And Its Cure From Qur'an"
Shahid Athar , M.D.
Stress is the most common aliment of modern age. It has been implicated in the causation of peptic ulcer disease, coronary heart disease, depression, auto immune disease, hypertension, diabetes and even cancer. In milder form it manifests in form of unrest, violence, at work, school and home. Common medical problems like tension headache, insomnia, and obesity are also attributed to unusual stress. None of us are free from stress but some deal with it better than others.
Stress results from the following factors:
a. Fear of the unknown and trying to see through and control the destiny.
b. Losses in our life of people and things dear to us and our inability to recover those losses.
c. Inner conflict between our heart and mind between what is known to be the truth and our failure to accept it as truth. Acceptance of truth may require changing our habits and way of life which we may adhere to for some reason like pleasure, joys, taste, pride in race or heritage etc.
Let us examine how Quran deals with such situations.
Our losses are a trial for us:
"Be sure we will test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives, but give glad tidings to those who are steadfast, who say when afflicted with calamity: To God we belong and to him is our return. They are those on who (DESCEND) blessings from God and mercy and they are the once that receive guidance. 2:155
Thus in Islam, we do not have concept of the ownership of goods and life. Everything belongs to God and returns to him. So if we don't own that thing why mourn our loss?
a. Our destiny is predetermined. We do not have control on that part. What we have control over is a limited free will, that is our actions, our choice to do good or bad, to believe in God or not to believe in Him, but we have no control over tomorrow's event not related to our actions i.e. whether my wife will have a son or daughter, whether his/her eyes will be brown or black, or whether I will have an accident or not tomorrow. WorTying over such things is of no use.
b. Rejection of faith in Quran is called a disease. This denial of truth is due to arrogance.
"In their heart there is a disease and God has increased their disease and grievous is their penalty because they lie to themselves." 2:10
Therefore after lying to ourselves, we set up an inner conflict - between heart and mind. In order to contain that conflict the mind sends signals to glands for secretion of harmones like adrenaline which leads to rapid heart rate, perspiration, tremor, the basis of lie detector test.
This lying conflict could be due to "SMALL" crimes like theft or adultery, or big crimes like rejection of God.
3 stages of spiritual development of soul age
a. Nafsul Ammara: -The Passionate soul "I do not absolve myself Lo the (human) soul is prone to evil, save that whenever my Lord has mercy. Lo, Lord is forgiving; merciful." 12:53 (Surah Yusuf)
This soul inclines toward sensual Pleasure, passion and self gratification , anger, envy, greed, and conceit. Its concerns are pleasure of body, gratification of physical appetite, and ego.
Hadith "your most-ardent-enemy is your evil self which resides within your body" (Bukhaii).
If this evil soul is not checked wiR lead to unusual stress and its resultant effects.
- b. Nafsul Lawanunah (The Reproaching Soul). "Nay, I swear by the reproaching soul" 75:1
This soul is conscious or aware of Evil, resists it, asks for God's grace, and pardon, repents and tries to ammend and hopes to achieve salvation.
"And (There are) others who have acknowledged their faults. They mix a righteous action with another that was bad. It may be that Allah will relent toward them. Lo! Allah is relenting, merciful." 9:102
Hadith "These are two impulses within us. One spirit which calls towards good and confirms the truth. He who feels this impulse should know that it comes from Allah. Another impulse comes from our enemy (Devil) which leads to doubt and holds untruth and encourages evil. He who feels this should seek refuge in Allah from the accursed devil."
This soul warns people of their vain desire, guides and opens the door to virtute and righteousness. It is a positive step in spiritual growth.
c. The satisfied soul (Nafsul Mutmainnah). "O (you) soul in (complete) rest and satisfaction. Come back to your Lord, will pleased (yourself) and will pleasing unto him. Enter you then among my devotees, enter you in my heaven." 89:27-30
This is the highest state of spiritual development. satisfied soul is the state of bliss, content and peace. The soul is at peace because it knows that inspite of its failures in this world, It will return to God. Purified of tension, it emerges from the struggle with obstacles blocking the peace of mind and heart.
What should we do in panic and despair? In panic non-believers behave differently than believers. They have no one to return to, to ask for mercy and forgiveness, their life is this life, which they cannot control, thus get more depressed and increase in their state of wrong doing. Then we will see that if they are used to casual drinking will start drinking more and become alcoholic, or a barbital criminal.
On the other hand a believer should do the following:
a. Increase dhikr (Remembrance of God)
"who have believed and whose heart have Rest in the remembrance of God. Verify in the remembrance of God, do hearts find rest." 13:28
b. Increase their prayer.
"O you who believe, seek help with steadfastness and prayer. For God is with those who are steadfast." 2:153
c. Ask forgiveness
"And I have said: seek forgiveness from your Lord. Lo He was ever forgiving." 71:10
In addition to above we are also asked to continue to struggle to up-grade ourselves.
" surely God does not change the condition in which a people are in until they change that which is in themselves." 13:11
In summary, I conclude that stress results from lack of inner peace due to conflicts within us and leads to external disturbances in our behavior and health. Inner peace can only be achieved by believing in God, the All Mighty, and remembering him frequently and asking for his help and forgiveness in times of difficulties.
Jazak Allah Khair
Your sister in Islam
|Re: Duaa Needed|
|09/23/02 at 23:21:00|
may Allahu SubhanaHu Wata'ala give your brother shifa'a and grant him patience and strength through these difficult times, ameen..
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