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|How do you deal with the 3 stooges? (Moved to Naseeha)|
|05/31/05 at 04:31:50|
|Moved to Naseeha|
|06/01/05 at 06:24:22|
|05/31/05 at 08:01:04|
:'(Next time, instead of putting yourself in harm's way...
:oThrow a bucket of cold water on them!
::) It works for dogs when they are fighting!
|05/31/05 at 19:24:17|
|I totally agree with kathy and think it's a wonderful idea.|
Things are easier to dry than repairing a wall.
Next time quietly go in the bathrrom or kitchen,
fill up a large bucket with cold water and douse them good.
Another idea is if you have a video cam, tape the fight.
Make a copy, show them the tape and tell them they can have
the copy back after 6 months of no fighting :)
And next time the fight you'll play it for their mom and dad. :o
|06/01/05 at 06:23:26|
Jazakh Sisters. Those are great ideas and will be used the next time which I hope there isn't one, insha-Allah.
So today I return and all is calm at the home front but I look at the walls and there is a picture frame on the small hole and a huge prayer rug on the biggest hole. I couldn't help but LOL and told them, "Oh come on guys. You have to be more creative then that. I mean tht's like the oldest trick in the book. It's screaming, "Don't look here, there's a big hole." Then the oldest stooge responds, "Well there is a huge rug hanging over there and no body thinks there is a hole behind it."
"That's because your mom put it there."
"So. OK. Let's move the hallway mirror here."
The middle second wife "Why? So that someone can come in, open the door and break the mirror?"
"There's a door stopper."
Oldest stooge wife, "So. That still leaves you guys to break it the next time."
Youngest stooge, "We have to do something."
Anyways, all is ok except for the youngest stooge's wife who isn't there which I will explain later.
So the girls leave the house and the 3 stooges all say, "Are you sure you guys can leave us alone?"
I respond, "If I get back home and there is another hole wall, I will bring you 3 outside and literally knock you to the concrete."
"Yeah, Ah Lung, you have to join our football team."
Now that's the 3 stooges I know.
Allah (SWT) bless....
|Not so easy!|
|06/01/05 at 07:39:42|
Don't let them off so easy!
Make them repair the holes and then repaint the entire room!!
After a day of repairs and painting, Insha Allah, they will think twice....
On the serious side... the one who gave you a fat lip, needs serious therapy.... no 'heat of the moment' excuses should be allowed.
|06/01/05 at 12:53:35|
the message was moved here by the moderator of naseeha so it should not be moved back.. sorry i deleted it from naseeha thinking it was a duplicate..
|06/01/05 at 16:08:49|
|I was wondering why it was moved here? Nor did I move it back...|
|06/01/05 at 18:43:39|
| [slm] Sister Trustworthy,|
If you are ever in New England come and visit me please. We would have a blast. You don't know how many times I have read your stories and laughed so hard! :D On a serious note don't ever intervene again, you could get seriously hurt. When people are that emotional, they are not thinking rationally. :'(
As salamu alaykum,
|06/02/05 at 12:12:39|
I'm telling you...Twilight Zone.
I usually type my long messages in Word and then copy and paste, but I'm not finding it on my hard drive. I'll keep looking. May be I was so mad and forgot to save it
BUT I should and I will make them repair the walls. Cool I got invited to New England....where's New England? Is that in Maine? I'm really bad at geography.
So the new problem is that the youngest stooge's wife is really upset because the oldest stooge got hrash with her because she raised her voice (screach) at him defending her husband. Basically this fight was between the brothers and none of the wives should've intervened even though they were all crying.
Though everyone apologized at the end including her and she supposedly accepted the oldest stooge apology, the youngest stooge told me on the side that she might not be coming back to the home and stay with her parents. That was part of the argument. They live with her parents who are Buddhist for the week while he is working and then live with us for the weekend when it used to be the opposite. Her family drinks so our family has that concern and her father (don't know if she knew this) stated that his grandchildren were going to grow up drinking along with them. THINK AGAIN OLD MAN. I don't even know if the youngest stooge knew he said that.
I've already ahd a talk with him before he was married about situations as this. I'm thinking about talking to the both of them again but not sure if we will both be getting emotional because we are both short tempered though he's never raised his voice at me, his siblings say that has changed ever since he married.
Any advice on what I could say because just the night before the fight, I took him and his wife out and we had a great time talking about things. He asked me why the oldest brothers don't talk to each other anymore and I explained to him because they had a huge fight that went sourly physical. This fight was kept secret then the next thing you know, he's doing the same thing so I had this DEJA VU and felt I had to tackle them before it went that far. It was a reflex affect.
I'm thinking we should have that same talk. The 3 stooges has my traits. The oldest holds in his emotions and becomes sarcastic about things until he gets really upset. The middle one, has a non-chalant characterterisitc that people get annoyed at sometimes because nothing affects him until he gets really upset. And the youngest one, he reads too much into what people say and is dangerous when short tempered. I get dangerous when I am short tempered and I was short tempered when I saw the youngest one in a headlock. The only reason why I didn't throw punches was because I heard the youngest stooge's wife cry hysterically.
When they were younger, I used to be short tempered all the time and threaten the stooges constantly. Throw them off the balcony, down the stepp flight of stairs, crack their heads open, etc. And I would make the attempt until they all cried mercy for each other. But they would never raise their voice at me or strike back and keep coming back for more. I feel guilty about it but I just tell myself that it made them stronger in their bond as brothers because they defend each other all the time like they did with me but they fight like wolves. The youngest ones won't ever hit the oldest one. The youngest ones are just a year apart. I'm not like that anymore, I'm more non-chalant and sarcastic now, short tempered when it counts.
So any advice on how to get the youngest wife back to us would be greatly appreciated. I'm not good with that sentimental stuff......
Allah (SWT) bless....
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