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|06/03/05 at 12:53:16|
I need help from experienced momz...since I learn a lil more everyday, about things i couldda done better, or short cuts that I wish i'd known before, I thought I would start this thread to ask y'all to share some life/time saving tips when dealing with a baby.
aight, waiting to hear from y'all :)
PS: any tips about parenting in general are welcome...
PPS: it doesn't have to be jus' experienced momz, dads, older siblings etc are welcome too :)
|06/03/05 at 12:56:11|
|Aaaaawwwweeee so sweet…..|
|06/03/05 at 13:50:57|
New Moms heh heh heh…they’re so cute. Have a bebzi 
Here are some tips:
1. Always have the video camera ready at all times. Baby’s make the funniest faces.
2. Do not play rough after a baby has been breast feed or especially formula feed even after burping….they tend to throw up on you.
3. When you change their diapers, have a protective shield for yourself and under their bottoms….you think they may be done, but….DANG your intuitions!!
4. Do not feed them sour foods and if breastfeeding, don’t eat sour foods
5. Homemade baby food is better than store bought
6. Bananas make them constipated.
Huh…before I go on…how old is your little one?
7. Don’t use baby talk like “goo goo ga ga” when talking to them, let them do that. You talk to them normally so that they pick up on words and annunciation better and quicker.
8. Listen at their cries, there is a different cry for different situations like diaper changing, stomach upset, hungry, etc.
9. Make sure they get a lot of human contact but only healthy humans so that they get used to company
10. When going to places, take baby along so that s/he can get used to the other surroundings then the home…traveling will be more easier.
11. Make sure they are never too hot or too cold, clothing wise….what you are comfortable in, baby should be too
12. Babies can’t see until they reach 40 days old that’s why the tend to hang on to the mother’s smell
13. Binkies are bad, don’t let them get used to it
14. Bottles are bad, don’t let them get used to that
15. Don’t let them sleep with a binkie or bottle in their mouth
16. When sleeping in crib, sleep baby on back and don’t stuff too many things in crib where it can suffocate them
17. Their eyes don’t fully develop until their 9 yrs old so be careful that they don’t play with things too close to their eyes or could bounce back to their eyes.
18. If they fall or bump into something, don’t scream….tell them gently it’s ok and they will walk it off themselves without crying hysterically. When you get hysterical, they will also get hysterical.
19. Give them lots of love and hugs and kisses and play with them as often as you can. When you are feeding baby make sure to make eye contact.
20. Instead of playing music, play the Qur’an and adhan
Tips from hadith:
Up to age 7: treat them like Kings/Queens, serve but don’t spoil too much
8-14: treat them like students with discipline
15-17: treat them like friends, understand where they are coming from
18 and up: treat them like adults, give them respect
I may be off a little on the age.
Allah (SWT) bless….
|roll out the mat|
|06/09/05 at 23:58:45|
|I swear by massage! |
Use baby oil in summer and olive oil in winter...it comforts the baby, eases colic and improves circulation, makes them plump and placid and MOST IMPORTANT: if you follow it up with a warm bath, puts them to sleep for at least 3-4 hours at a stretch so that you're free to do other things. :-*
|06/10/05 at 10:03:14|
| [slm] wa rahmatullah,|
Is there anything in particular that you need help with?
Here's what I've learned in 2 years:
It's not going to kill you or him for him to cry for a few minutes. I think this is the biggest mistake I made, not letting him cry AT ALL. I'd never let him cry for 15 minutes at a time, but I think I could have let him learn to fall asleep if I hadn't run in the room the second he started crying at night. Wallahu a'lam. He's 2 now and just in very recent months has he started sleeping through the entire night .
everything that I thought was going to be a huge big deal actually was very easy:
weaning: I waited till he was about 19 months, which is pretty old, but he wasn't very attached to breastfeeding to begin with. After that he'd ask for it and I'd say no more, and pretty soon he forgot about it.
Taking away the night bottle: I thought it would take a month because he'd ALWAYS wake up at night and ask for his bottle, and I'd be so tired I'd just give it to him. It took 3 nights for him to stop asking.
Potty training: We're still at the very beginning. I started about a month ago and he just wasn't ready. Now he is and it's quite easy as long as we're at home and the potty's always within sight, and I think it'll only take a few more weeks insha Allah for him to be fully trained during the day. You'd be shocked at yourself if you knew how proud you'd be when your baby "goes" on the potty ::).
Getting him to stop touching my hair as he falls asleep: still workigng on that, but I found out that I could, indeed,survive listening to him cry for a few minutes.
The next milestone will be moving his bed to his own room, and I'd love to hear advice on that. I'm planning to do it in the next few weeks insha Allah.
Then daycare :)
|An old lady's ideas|
|06/10/05 at 13:59:47|
|Remember these words;|
How you treat your children from the beginning
will be how they treat you when they are adults.
What you role model now will be the base of
their behavior when they are older.
Also: New moms spend a lot of energy teaching that first word
We can hardly wait till they say their first word.
Then we can't wait till they take their first step
About the age of 3 to 17
we wish they would sit still a moment and shut up :)
Enjoy each moment, try not to be in a hurry.
18 yrs goes fast enough.
Now I wish they would come home and stay a while.
Savor each moment.
As to holding and going to them when they cry.
I see nothing wrong with comforting them and
helping them feel secure.
I know it seems overwelming right now, but now
I wish I had something to hold, comfort and snuggle.
18 yrs is a very very VERY short time.
May Allah bless all you new mommas :-)and your babies
|06/16/05 at 09:24:58|
I tend to agree with Sr. Azizah, savour each minute with your little one.
However Sr. MF has sound advice too, one tends to get to know the different cries a baby emits, the I'm-tired-but-refuse-to-go-to-sleep-unless-you-cuddle-me, one can get to be a habit. I tend to leave my babys lying alone on the floor within my sight (on a mat with suitable toys (I'm not that cruel)), so I can go to them if they are in distress but I can also get on with the 1001 other household chores that need doing everyday. So my two have grown up knowing that whining at mummy is not really going to get them anywhere, instead they use guile, they give me kisses and cuddles (Fatima) and gummy smiles (Khadeeja).
Sr. MF, the way I got round putting Fatima in her own room (we did this when she turned two and we were fed up with being kicked black and blue by Fatima, she slept with us up till then :o). We started by putting her down for her afternoon naps in the nursery (ie her room), then we put her in that room at nights too, I leave a bottle of milk for her on her bedside table, so if she wakes in the night she can drink it. Which she does and very tidily replaces the bottle, cap and all on the table once she's drunk the milk.
I tend to listen to advice and then play it by ear, each child is different and I think most mothers know what their child can tolerate. Also each mothers circumstances differ, if you have lots of family around you, then by all means cuddle your baby to sleep each night, for those of us who are alone and need to preserve our sanity, allowing for a little sleep time whinge works out easier in the long run.
Was there anything specific you wanted advice about??
|06/16/05 at 09:40:01|
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