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 91 
 on: Apr 03, 2014 01:13 PM 
Started by akhan - Last post by akhan
He's a doctor himself, I doubt if he would agree to therapy.

 92 
 on: Apr 03, 2014 11:29 AM 
Started by Siham - Last post by jannah
Yeah, it just seems to be a mean look at every kind of muslim that exists.

 93 
 on: Apr 03, 2014 11:23 AM 
Started by akhan - Last post by jannah
Stay his friend but let him know you may not agree with the choices he's making/made. Totally agree about the need for therapy, but it really needs to be a muslim qualified therapist.

 94 
 on: Apr 03, 2014 11:20 AM 
Started by jannah - Last post by jannah
Salams,
It's interesting that in this day and age we can google and find the answers to so many of our questions but there are still mysteries left.
What questions do you guys have that you'd like to ask Allah? I'd like to ask about 9/11 and the Malaysian plane and about Malcolm x's murder.

 95 
 on: Apr 01, 2014 10:39 PM 
Started by akhan - Last post by Nature
I think that I once read an article saying that homosexuality is often the result of a lack of 'developing a secure sense of self and male identity'  - if you know that he was abused as a child, then he should definitely seek therapy for that. If he says that he's also still attracted to women, and he didn't consider himself 'gay' before, then to me that indicates that Fozia is right and he's using homosexual attraction as a 'relief' from unresolved issues.

MuslimMatters' counselors had this response to a girl who asked about homosexual feelings:

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This is a very difficult situation many Muslim girls are facing, and I applaud you for reaching out and trying to better understand how best to handle and navigate such a complex issue.  It is very important for you to really know and understand yourself deeply before trying to make any major life decisions going forward.  What I mean is, it is important to accept your reality as it is, the feelings you feel, and try to understand why you may have same sex attraction.  This could involve a fairly intense self-study, reflection, and introspection, as well as reading literature and other things to help you better understand why you have these feelings.   This “research” in understanding yourself better should inform your sense of self and help you get comfortable in your own skin, as opposed to what the APA says, a scientific explanation, or the generally stated fatwas on the topic.


Maybe as you talk/chat further, if it comes up in discussion, you could link him to this?

http://muslimmatters.org/2014/01/09/whats-the-matter-attracted-to-same-sex/

 96 
 on: Apr 01, 2014 08:33 PM 
Started by akhan - Last post by akhan
I don't know. There's actually not much I can do sitting half way around the world. Had I been back home, maybe I could've done something. It came as a shock though, we've been friends for twelve years and he's the only friend from middle school that I'm still friends with and now this. Sheesh!


 97 
 on: Apr 01, 2014 02:50 PM 
Started by akhan - Last post by Fozia

Is it possible to get therapy for the childhood abuse?

I think that needs to be addressed first, he may be using being gay as a way to come to terms with what happened to him.


 98 
 on: Apr 01, 2014 01:42 PM 
Started by akhan - Last post by akhan
I've known this friend from sixth grade and now he says he's gay. But then he also says he likes a girl. There's childhood abuse involved too. I'm confused what to say to him. For now, I told him nothing changes between us but certainly it does affect me. What do I do now? He's all hunky dory about it though, says he didn't choose to be, it just happened and all that rubbish you always hear from gay people. I won't quit being friends but I don't want him to remain gay either. Advice?

 99 
 on: Apr 01, 2014 02:15 AM 
Started by Siham - Last post by Nature
But it didn't come off as funny at all to me. It repeated the same thing over and over. 'Maniac Muslim' did a much better job of being funny, this was just mean.

 100 
 on: Mar 31, 2014 09:11 PM 
Started by blackrose - Last post by Siham
As-Salaamu` alaykum
Dear Friends,
Please pray (especially for those of you who are fasting) for this Amazing sister I know who is currently single, to get marry soon to an honorable, amazing, God-fearing brother insha`Allah. Jazaks!

P.s. Fozia habibty, I pray that Allah grants your beautiful daughters the Tawfiq to succeed in this life and the next. Ameen.
W`salaam

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