A new muslim girl has recently moved into my neighborhood. I was introduced to her thru her first acquaintence in the city, who I happen to know very well.
Turns out that this new girl is unfortunately really annoying. So much so that no one wants to meet her, and in my ladies' circles people openly make fun of her whether she is around or not. To top it off her husband is extremely antisocial and he doesn't want to meet any of our husbands. We invited them to a party at our house, and he declined giving my husband the excuse that he doesn't interact with too many people at once.
Anyway, I later found out that he hadn't even informed his wife that they were invited until the night of the party.
For some reason, she thinks we're best friends. She calls me every day, will drop off food at my doorstep, ring the doorbell and run away...fine she only did that once. If we ever meet at someone else's house (we have a halaqa once a week), she'll sit while holding my hand, or lean her head on my shoulder. We usually have small snacks, which we help ourselves to on a normal basis, but she will jump up and take stuff out on a plate and then tell me it's for me. Then she watches me eat, telling everyone she's on a diet. She has started asking me where I shop, and has bought some identical outfits. I invited her to lunch with 4 other ladies. The following week she did the same, and had the exact same menu. A few times at the beginning, she asked me what I was up to, and when I told her I'm going grocery shopping, she would come along because she can't drive. But then she commented on every single item I purchased. Now I don't tell her where I'm going, but she'll walk by my house and call the following day, "ur car wasn't at home yesterday, where were you?" She buys me stuff all the time (like little pieces of jewellry, or ornaments). When I return the favor to even it out, she'll return the stuff and say "my husband won't like it."
She's just really very annoying. I've tried hinting it to her that she's invading my personal space. As soon as I do that, the next day she will phone me and cry about something that has happened in her life. Usually these are not earth shattering events: she's had a fight with her husband, she burned her hand while frying something, her back hurts, she lost something important. I am not mean to her, because everyone else is, but I really find my patience wearing pretty thin.
I've only known this girl for 1 month, but she is driving me crazy. I feel that I will snap someday and say something horrible to her.
I just had a baby, and while she has been married longer she is childless. She will cry on end about this. I feel horrible for her and try to help her by listening to her and giving her duaas to recite, but then she very easily tells me I have no idea what I'm talking about. I know she's sensitive about it, but I just can't handle her coming over and examining every possession my baby has, or her saying things like, "you must be tired of taking care of him all day, let me hold him." I feel horrible, but I hate it.
I really need some space from this girl. What do you guys suggest?