I wanna cheer at the above post.
Looking at your post this is what I see.
Out of your marriage, you find a job, you change your appearance and lose weight, you apparently are also expected to read his mind.
Soooo, once the above is accomplished, your husband gets a stunning wife with a high earning salary, who I assume will be bringing in the bulk of the money and also I'm assuming continuing to do the domestic chores.
What exactly will you husband be contributing to this marriage, apart from ripping apart your self esteem, and working up towards smacking you?
Btw spitting and pushing are not small acts one should overlook as oooh all men do them.
I've grown up watching my parents interact and from my take on an Islamic marriage, the husband does not spit and shove his wife around, he does not belittle her and criticise her appearance moreso if she is trying to change her appearance to please her husband anyway.
Also very curious, do you wish to work, what arrangement will you come to when you have children, is your husband aware one puts on weight when one has children and it doesnt always fall off the second baby is born?
What do you get out of this marriage, what is your husband doing to make this marriage a pleasant one, what will he be changing about himself?
I'm divorced now, ex always always told me how very utterly ugly I was, I was too skinny appparently, I was exactly the same weight throughout my marriage as I was when he first saw me.