How do I get closer to my husband's cultural/religious community?
My husband is foreign and while I'm a member of the same religion (Islam), I'm not a member of his culture (Turkish).
I'll sometimes be invited to functions but I have several problems.
1. Many of the women are stay-at-home moms. This causes:
a.) I don't relate to them because I'm not "stay-at-home"
b.) I don't have kids (yet)
c.) Since they stay at home, many have a weak grasp of English
2. When they get together in a group, of course they're all speaking Turkish amongst themselves which is totally normal and totally fine, but I'm out of the loop. I know limited Turkish, but I'm still an outsider.
3. Most of the married women are older than me as their husbands are older. Therefore, most of the women are in their 40's or late 30's while I'm only 25.
I always try to be friendly, talkative, I'll even ask some for their phone number, but other than being invited to these group events, no one ever really wants to get together.
This stresses out my husband since the wives "doing their thing" brings some kind of honor, strengthens community, makes the husbands closer and all that good stuff. I guess it's like military wives or old-fashioned networking.
How can I get "in" to this community? How can I make myself more integrated? Cause right now, I'm basically totally out of it.
I pray everyday that some of his younger friends in their 20's or early 30's will get married so I can have some women closer to my age, or that they marry fluent English speakers or maybe even Americans..
I'm not about to get pregnant just to "fit in".. I have some things to do before I have a baby, mostly having to do with finances and my weight.
Please help me out because this will help out our standing and our marriage within the community.
P.S. I can't invite them ALL over as it's a LOT of women and I don't have a lot of space OR a lot of money. Also when they're all together I'm usually the odd one out except for some nice ladies speaking to me.
Also, it's weird to ask people out individually since I'm not sure if they even LIKE me since they never ask me out anywhere.