Peace be upon you,
    Welcome to Madinat Al-Muslimeen, the City of the Muslims. Please feel free to visit the different hot spots around the Madina and post any discussion, articles, suggestions, comments, art, poetry, events, recipes, etc etc. Basically anything you would like to share with your sisters and brothers!! Non-muslims are also of course quite welcome to share their comments. If this is your first time here, you need to register with the city council. Once you register you have 15 days to post your mandatory introduction and then you will be upgraded to a Madina Citizen, God Willing. Please note that our city does have regulations which are listed in the city constitution. Read them carefully before moving in. P.S. - You can also post anonymously if you wish. P.S.S. - Also be sure to check out our ARCHIVES from 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006 & 2007. :)

Random Quote: If you are aware of your humility, then you are arrogant. - Ibn Ata'illah
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: How can I improve my self ?  (Read 2263 times)
0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.
umar
Bro
Newbie
*

Reputation Power: 0
umar has no influence :(
Gender: Male
Posts: 13


« on: Sep 19, 2008 12:12 PM »


How can I improve myself, in terms of personality, lifestyle and status ?

jannah
Administrator
Hero Member
*****

Reputation Power: 277
jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!jannah is awe-inspiring mA!
Gender: Female
Posts: 7133


I heart the Madina


WWW
« Reply #1 on: Sep 20, 2008 07:25 AM »

Read the Quran. Lots of instruction, advice and wisdom in there Smiley



blackrose
Sis
Hero Member
*

Reputation Power: 3
blackrose has no influence :(
Gender: Female
Posts: 1649



« Reply #2 on: Sep 20, 2008 06:13 PM »

read books of seerah

for our prophet pbuh had the best personality ect.

salaam

you can take classes
Discoverulifecoach
Guest
« Reply #3 on: Sep 21, 2008 02:20 AM »

Work out where you are, and then where you want to go.

You want to improve. Alhumdullilah. What exactly do you want to improve, and when will you know you have acheived this goal?

If you would like to discuss this further working with a Muslim life coach, then I can put you in touch with a brother who offers free taster sessions.

Please e-mail me at discoverulifecoach@ gmail.com

Wassalam
BrKhalid
Bro
Hero Member
*

Reputation Power: 27
BrKhalid barely matters :(BrKhalid barely matters :(
Gender: Male
Posts: 1352



« Reply #4 on: Sep 21, 2008 08:12 AM »

Asalaamu Alaikum  bro

Would definately agree with reading the Qur'an (even if you can't read Arabic and can only read the English translation).

In addition, choose a simple hadith pertaining to a good (voluntary) action and try to practice it every day.

You can also choose an action which you can do every week or month and something which you can do every year.


Becoming a better Muslim will change your personality, lifestyle and status (in the hereafter at the least!!)



Say: "O ye my servants who believe! Fear your Lord, good is (the reward) for those who do good in this world. Spacious is God's earth! those who patiently persevere will truly receive a reward without measure!" [39:10]
Faizah
Sis
Sr. Member
*

Reputation Power: 3
Faizah has no influence :(
Gender: Female
Posts: 365



« Reply #5 on: Sep 21, 2008 03:05 PM »

As salaamu alaikum

The advice given thus far - reading the Quran; study of the seerah - is most sound in terms of understanding and thus striving to emulate the greatest of teaching and best of examples.

I also echo the comment that realizing/accepting that there is "room for improvement" is a positive step and that it is often a difficult stage to get to as many often think they are "just fine as is".  For some coming to this realization is due to someone pointing out a "flaw" or seeing what traits others have and wanting them or sometimes it's just the epiphany that "just happens".  The one thing I know for certain is that absolute perfection is something unattainable for a "mere mortals" so we simply strive to be the "best we can be" and therefore improve what we have control over and minimize the impact of what we don't have control over.

I do query also "how will you know" when it has happened?  Is it measured in tangible things or is it intangible?  If the answer is "in tangible things" then it is a measure established by others which therefore means it is not valid because no one person today is in such an absolute position of authority to tell another what "success" or "excellent personality" nor "status" is; that is up to the individual. For example for some "status" means having a job that pays the bills and provides the necessities of life but for others it means having a ultra high paying job/position of authority that enables them to live a life of material luxury.  (Yet in times of disaster all the material things have no benefit and can easily be lost).  For some "status and personality" means having someone in their life that is nothing more than "eye candy" to be flaunted before other people (yet beauty fades and outwardly pretty people can have fleeting personailities) but for others it means having someone in their life that is compatible to them and who is supportive/nurturing and caring.

If the answer is "it is intangible" then a good measure would be (in my opinion) being someone who others want to be around because of their honesty and interity; their compassion and warmth of spirit; their dependability and reliability; their humbleness and happy nature.  This won't necessarily translate into material wealth but it does translate into spiritual wealth.

For everthing thing within our lives or about ourselves that we may believe to be negative there are others who are not doing as well or are not as good as we are. 

Fa'izah
blackrose
Sis
Hero Member
*

Reputation Power: 3
blackrose has no influence :(
Gender: Female
Posts: 1649



« Reply #6 on: Sep 21, 2008 06:59 PM »

salaam

in terms of personality you can ask your friends and family what they dont like and you can improve on that. They know you best, but be able to face what they say
BrKhalid
Bro
Hero Member
*

Reputation Power: 27
BrKhalid barely matters :(BrKhalid barely matters :(
Gender: Male
Posts: 1352



« Reply #7 on: Sep 22, 2008 06:29 AM »

Asalaamu Alaikum  bro


Quote
I do query also "how will you know" when it has happened?  Is it measured in tangible things or is it intangible?


In respect of the intangible the following is relevant but the sweetness of faith is something that is so hard to come by now and achieve, given the world we live in.


Narrated Anas:

The Prophet said, "Whoever possesses the following three qualities will have the sweetness (delight) of faith:

1. The one to whom Allah and His Apostle becomes dearer than anything else.

2. Who loves a person and he loves him only for Allah's sake.

3. Who hates to revert to Atheism (disbelief) as he hates to be thrown into the fire."

[Bukhari]



Inshallah may we all be given the sweetness of Iman during these last remaining days of Ramadhan and the days after that follow.

Say: "O ye my servants who believe! Fear your Lord, good is (the reward) for those who do good in this world. Spacious is God's earth! those who patiently persevere will truly receive a reward without measure!" [39:10]
umar
Bro
Newbie
*

Reputation Power: 0
umar has no influence :(
Gender: Male
Posts: 13


« Reply #8 on: Sep 23, 2008 05:31 AM »

Assalaamoalaikum brothers and sisters,

     Thanks to all who spare time for me. I am pleased to see your warm responses!
I am average level Muslim and can read Quran. I perform Salah and read Quran, but not regularly.
I also read seerah books are listen to audio lectures of Islamic scholars often.
I am stuck in busy day to day life. Sometimes it is too hard to spare time for my family (kids, wife and parents)

I should focus on Salah, Quraan and Hadit first and would make most in month of Ramadhan.

Jazak Allah Khair (May Allah reward for the good)

Wassalaam
blackrose
Sis
Hero Member
*

Reputation Power: 3
blackrose has no influence :(
Gender: Female
Posts: 1649



« Reply #9 on: Sep 23, 2008 05:12 PM »

salaam
here is a good goal to achieve: description of the believers:

Attributed to Ali (ra):

The people of taqwa on earth are those of virtue:  their
speech is correct (true); their garments are of moderate
nature and their walk is one of humility.  They lower their
gazes when they see something that Allah has forbidden them
to see and they give an ear to beneficial knowledge.  They
maintain their integrity in both adversity and prosperity.

Had it not been for the appointed time that Allah has
written for them (death),their souls would not remain an
extra second in their bodies out of yearning for reward and
fear of punishment.  The Creator ranks Supreme in their
eyes, so everything else becomes immaterial to them.  They
are with Paradise as if they have already witnessed it and
enjoyed its presence.  They are with Hell as if they had
seen it and tasted its torment.  Their hearts grieve and
their evil (if any) is non-contagious.

Their bodies are lean, their needs are few and their souls
are chaste.

They observe patience for a few days and experience
ever-lasting comfort.  Thisis a profitable exchange that
their Lord has made pleasant for them.  The world tempts
them, but they do not succumb.  It imprisons them, but they
ransomed themselves in exchange.

During the nights they stand in rows and read portions of
the Quran.   They recite with proper recitation which
grieves their hearts and drink it (the Quran) like medicine.
If a verse of yearning comes along, they reach for it and
believe it is  their destination.  If an intimidating verse
comes along, they pour their hearts  towards it and believe
that Hell and its screams are in their ears.  They sleep on
their foreheads and elbows (i.e. they engage in prayers so
much that it is as if they sleep in those postures) and
implore Allah to deliver them.

In the day, they are tolerant and learned, kind and
God-fearing. Fear has chipped  away their bodies as if they
were arrows.  Anyone looking at them would think that  they
were sick.  But they are not sick.  Some will say that they
are confused.   A  great fear has made them look like that.
They are never content to do only a few actions (during the
day), nor do they ask for a great deal.   They condemn
themselves and are apprehensive about their deeds.  If one
of them is called  "pious", he fears what will be said of
him and says: 'I know myself better than you  do.  My Lord
knows me better than I do.   O Allah!  Do not take me to
task for  what they are saying about me and (O Lord) make me
better than they think.   Forgive my sins which they do not
know about.'

Their signs are that they are strong in Islam, resolute in
their softness, firm in their  belief.  They crave for
knowledge and are knowledgeable with tolerance; moderate
in richness; pleasant in hunger; forbearing in distress;
seeking halal; active in (pursuing) guidance and they
abhor greed.

They perform good deeds in fear (of rejection).  They spend
the evening in  gratitude and the morning in remembrance.
They sleep in alarm and they awake in  joy.  They combine
knowledge with tolerance and speech with action.

You will find their hopes are realistic their mistakes few;
their hearts humble their selves content; their diet meager
their matters simple; their Deen safe-guarded,  their
desires killed and their anger subdued.  Goodness is
expected from them and evil is shielded against them.  If
they are among those who are oblivious, they are accounted
amongst those who remember (Allah).  If they are among those
who remember, they are not written among the oblivious.
They pardon those who wrong them; they provide for those
who deprive them and meet those who sever ties with them.
They are never profane and always lenient.  Their wrong
doings are almost non-existent and their good deeds are
always present.  They are resolute when the earth quakes,
steadfast in calamities and grateful in prosperity.

They are not prejudiced against those they dislike nor do
they favor those they love.  They acknowledge the truth
before it appears and do not lose anything they are
entrusted with.  They do not call anyone names nor do they
hurt their neighbors.  They do not curse at the time of
difficulties nor do they venture into falsehood.

Silence does not bother them and if they laugh they do not
raise their voices.  If they are treated with injustice
they remain patient until Allah vindicates them.

Their own selves live in toil while others are comfortable
around them.

Their abstinence from those who stay away from them is their
exoneration (from malice).  Their proximity to those who
are close to them is a means of mercy (for those who are
close to them).

From:
Taqwa: The Provision of Believers
a compliation of Imam Ghazali, Imam Ibn Qayyim, Ibn Rajab
and Hanbali published by Al-firdous Ltd, London.

umar
Bro
Newbie
*

Reputation Power: 0
umar has no influence :(
Gender: Male
Posts: 13


« Reply #10 on: Sep 24, 2008 09:46 AM »

Assalaamoalaikum sis,

Jazak Allah

ws
Umar
Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to: