My husband and I have been invited to an interfaith iftar on Tuesday and Thursday of this week. Since my husband was the one receiving the invitation from a brother he knows, and he isn't big on asking questions (unlike myself!), I don't know too much about what will be going on..
Has anyone ever BEEN to one of these before?
Apparently, it's at a church.. I'm guessing it's some kind of mutual dawah arrangement where we talk about Ramazan and fasting, etc. to the Christians and they gain some kind of spiritual inspiration and then we talk about Jesus (Isa,
) and his role in Christianity and Judaism.. That's my GUESS but honestly I don't know.
I'm also confused as to whether or not I should bring food.. If it will be TRULY interfaith with non-Muslims and non-Christians also in attendance..
Another thing I'm worried about. I feel they may have invited me specifically because I'm a revert/convert.. I'm worried that I will be asked the EVER-POPULAR question of how I came to Islam.
Now, the thing is, I don't MIND discussing this.. But it's one thing to discuss it face to face with someone, and another terrifying possibility to have to discuss it to a large group of people!
My other major concern about it, is unlike many, with their MIRACULOUS tales of "coming to the light of Islam", I did not have a dream where The Prophet
, came to me, I didn't have an out-of-body experience of a "moment of realization/revelation".. My story is much more, dare I say.. BORING.
Basically, how I came to Islam was a slow, winding process of YEARS of slight interest, intense reading, cultural appreciation, etc. I'd probably read about Islam since I was about 8 years old, but I didn't become a Muslim, or rather I didn't FORMALLY become or COMMIT to being a Muslim until my 20's. I always feel this is a story people are disappointed with. It doesn't "tell well", or at least not as well as the intense, spiritual revelations of others.
Anyhow, I'm very nervous.. I'm going to see if I can get the number of the wife of the brother who invited us and see if I can learn more. I'd be terrified to go there and not have brought food if everyone else brought. How embarrassing, right?
Still ANOTHER hoop I'm jumping through mentally.. The ONE all-female iftar I've been invited to ALL this Ramazan (in fact, the only non-church-based iftar I've been invited to AT ALL this Ramazan), is this Thursday.. I'm kind of torn between going to the second interfaith-iftar or to the all-female iftar for the wives of all my husband's friends.. I really need to make some social networking as I've fallen out of the loop this year and my husband thinks I'm isolated.. Not quite sure what to do!
Any and all thoughts/advice are appreciated as my head is rolling! I'm nervous but excited but conflicted but confused..
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I'm ALSO already wondering what I should WEAR. So far my thoughts are to wear my gray cotton pinstripe trousers with my white cotton tunic top, my silver kitten-heel sandals, and a light pastel hijab or perhaps my gray one with little silver threads.. I want to look approachable, familiar (amazingly many people are scared if you dress too different, I don't know why) and feminine. Do you think this would be a good look for this kind of event?