OK I'm not talking about murders and massive dispute resolutions.
I'm talking about cautioning someone if you see them doing something wrong.
And actually yes people do get uppity, isn't the first reaction when one thinks one is being pulled up on ones actions to get defensive, and react in anger?
I don't go to people and make a big thing about whatever it is. Using the facebook example, I've only felt moved to speak out on two occasions, one was one of my sisters, she posted up a picture which quite honestly was utterly ridiculous, she would not have wanted it to get round so I asked her if she thought in all seriousness that was honestly a good idea, given that she had no idea who was on facebook and looking at her page.
The second was a colleague, and I asked him if the link he'd posted on one of his exhibition websites was actually meant to be there, it turned out I was right it wasn't, a student had decided to play a tasteless joke.
Of course I have my own short comings, but I'm talking about sins being committed openly and blatantly, whatever you do in private is between you and Allah, what you do in my face then gets to be my business, I'm not sharing in your sins and the results of them too, so I will try and appeal to your sense of morality first and I never walk in and start hurling accusations ever, then distance myself if I can't. I don't want my girls to grow up in a world of hedonism and no sense of morality or shame, there's a line we don't cross if we do I personally would rather be pulled up about it, the anger never lasts and I do stop and think.
I always find it rather amusing in a twisted way, that it's always the people who are trying to prevent the wrong being held up as the ones in the wrong instead, a classic example was when someone told me it was my fault ex used to hit me, no actually I honestly think if you're doing something wrong it's your fault, one consciously decides to choose the wrong path. Given all other factors, it is always ones own decision to take that first step. I'd rather be shocked into stepping back personally.
At a guess I would say people who go on about judging etc have either had a bad experience with the thought police. eg after Zohr oneday, a sister came up to me to tell me loudly and publicly my salat was completely wrong, for a fraction I felt affronted embarrassed (literally on the verge of tears), and almost positive I would never return, however whilst she was demonstrating the 'correct' way to pray to me it dawned on me that she was probably of the Hanbali school of thought, she didn't listen to me when I quietly told her I prayed according to the hanafi way, according to her teachings there was only one right way, so I let her get on with it and escaped ASAP, I did continue attending afterwards, just regarded the sister as a nutter (yes reader I judged her).
Or and I'm sure there are people out there who would rather their transgressions be normal, so they aren't seen as transgressions, and I'm not prepared to live in a world like that.
Aren't there so many accounts of people who came before us who refused to listen to those who exhorted the right, who transgressed against their souls publicly who were completely wiped from this earth by Allah's wrath?
Like I said I have so many of my own shortcomings BUT I do not want to live in a world where my worst behaviour is normal and acceptable, if you want to judge me do so, however there are ways and there are ways of trying to make people see sense, barreling in and throwing around accusations and promising hellfire etc is not one of them.
After all one does not know how close someone is to Allah from just a snapshot of their life, and I'd rather not have anyone wishing me ill, life is a test enough of its own without having a loads of illwill from people who's feelings I've ridden roughshod over.