> Please help. I am divorced and single mother of three, 10 years old girl,
> 4 years old boy and 2 years old girl. As of last week I was awarded custody
> of all three children. My ex is very angry with me and he is turning my oldest
> against me. It is a long story which I can not elaborate right now.
> I need help in dealing with my daughter, I was told to get a good counsel for
>her. Can any one help!!!!!!!!!
You can counter the falsehoods that your ex is telling your kids about you, by yourself
personally being of good character and disposition. Your kids will notice these traits about
you, and will not accept and believe the falsehoods that your ex is saying about you.
In order to be of good character and disposition, you have to always obey the ordainments
of Allah, and follow the way of prophet Muhammed
and strive to educate yourself and
your children of the ilm. If there were actually some sins that you had committed before, you
should repent and have the earnestness not to commit them again in the future. This repentance
would serve as an example for your children, and they will follow your footsteps in the obedience
For your daughter, you should try to put her in an environment where she is around muslims
and the obedience of Allah. Instead of going to proms and dances, she can attend the programs
and classes that may be offered in the masjids.
And Allah knows.
We should be kind and peaceful to all people, and keep in mind that Allah will repay everyone in the afterlife.