Oh really, and this was a blanket ruling was it, with no reason behind it whatsoever, he didn't actually say this to one person for a reason? A Scholar decided to overrule the laws of Allah (swt)?
Hasan al Basri narrated from abu Hurairah "The women asking for seperation and Khul are Al Munafiqat"
The example I used in my previous post was just an example, I am saying that one persons flippant reason is anothers completely untenable situation, the examples you gave are exactly that clearly untenable for the women involved, and now you also belie scholars because you personally do not agree with their ruling!
Here's the thing, I sued for divorce too.
But do you know what, I didn't ask for assistance from anyone at all whatsoever, not Muslim not kuffar not any one single human being.
I turned to Allah (swt) and begged for his infinite mercy, I pleaded for him for his protection, I prayed for his gentleness, his nobility, his everlasting mercy a millionfold. I asked Him and only Him and do you know what, he replied, swiftly, and easily and gently, in a way I never ever thought possible.
And reading these posts, I am so very glad, that my automatic reaction has always been to throw myself at Allahs mercy, because subhanallah, the world is filled with heardhearted self righteous people.
I hope the tongue softens so that the words that are presently filled with malevolence, causing pain like a million cuts straight to the heart and making people turn away from not only the speaker but the religion supposedly advocated by the speaker, become as sweet as honey which in turn invites the listener to seek further the truth and add numbers to our ummah.
I hope your eyes which currently seem to see every non-Muslim and many of the ummah as fuel for the fires of hell, are truly opened so instead you see you’re brothers and sisters in Islam, and all those besides with a compassionate gaze.
I hope the heart which is now so hard and condemns every perceived disagreement with you as a weakness of faith in all but yourself, softens as warm wax, so that you learn to forgive and love others and desire for them that which you desire for yourself, namely Jannah , and closeness to your creator, I hope your learn to forgive, and accept that although we are of the same faith each has different desires, and if those are within the scope of Islam, as a human being you learn to accept not condemn the decisions of those besides yourself!
I actually have to thank you for this post, because you have convinced me beyond a shadow of doubt, that this Ummah desperately needs compassionate scholars, who will help others in the manner they would wish to be treated themselves. That we need vocal advocates to champion the oppressed, not half learned hard hearted people throwing about rulings out of context causing further grief and sorrow to the already broken.
Islam is Mercy, and it's Lord is Mercy, and it is Mercy and it is Mercy.