// Wisdom of the Shariah: Why Islam forbids marrying a non-Muslim man
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« on: Dec 13, 2009 09:23 PM »


Asalamualaikum wrt wb,


The Wisdom of Islamic Law: Marrying People of the Book

By: Imam Faisal Shaikh


Question:  Why is it haram (forbidden) for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man from the People of the Book (Christians or Jews), but a Muslim man is given permission to marry a chaste woman from them?



Answer:

All praise be to Allah.

From Allah's Most Beautiful names and attributes is al-Hakeem, the Most Wise, and for this reason the angels praised Allah using this name when Adam was placed before them, and they were asked about the Names of Things.  They said, "We have no knowledge except what You have taught us, indeed You are Most Knowledgeable, Most Wise."

And wisdom entails that one places all things in their rightful place, and nothing is done without reason or randomly.

It is known in that in marriage the husband is given Qawaammah or authority, and this authority if given to a non-Muslim man would likely have a negative affect on his wife and cause her to weaken her religious resolve, or become misguided and leave her religion all together.


On the other hand, if this authority is given to a Muslim man over his non-Muslim wife, it is more likely that he will be able to have a positive effect on her religion and perhaps be the means of her becoming guided and accepting Islam.


Also, we know that the husband's authority will have an effect on the children, and it is a grave and heinous crime for one's children to be raised on disbelief, and the scholars consider this as a type of oppression against one's children.

We see these wisdoms mentioned by Allah Most High when He says regarding the disbelieving husband:"They call you to the Fire, and Allah calls you to the Garden."  {Surah Baqarah, verse 221}


In addition to this, we also see that a Muslim man who marries a Christian woman, believes in her Prophets, rather he would not be a Muslim if he did not.  But a non-Muslim man when marrying a Muslim woman, does not accept the Divine origin of her religion, and he does not believe that Muhammad peace be upon him is the final Prophet sent for all of humanity until the end of time.  So how can the two matters be the same?


Another wisdom is that the rulings in Islam that grant special permission for the People of the Book, such as marrying their women and eating their food, are an encouragement for non-Muslims to see Islam's tolerance and respect of their religions and Prophets, and that Islam recognizes the divine origin of their books and the Tawheed (Oneness) of Allah that their religions taught.


In fact, we see that the Shariah of Islam is more tolerant towards Christians and Jews than the religious law of many Christian churches, which teach that it is forbidden for their followers to marry someone from another church, or require a special decree for such a marriage, such as the Copts and the Catholics.


And Allah Most High and Wise Knows best.



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« Reply #1 on: Dec 14, 2009 06:46 PM »

Assalam Alaikom brother, thank you for that info.

As a past catholic, it is not forbidden to marry another of a different faith. You can do it, just if you don't marry in the church is it not considered valid. You also should try to convert your spouse to catholicism.

I agree, I mean having someone who shares by adoring and treasuring your religion is a beautiful thing. However as a past christian, we are taught Muhammad(saaw) is no one of good character, or simple never discussed. I think a good muslim man would not feel good knowing his spouse does not care for the most beloved of all prophets, that is to say if she did. Or living with someone who on a daily basis prayed in Isa's(saw)name committing shirk in your home. I guess it comes down to also what is important to the person.

best solution: The good Muslim men marries the good Muslim woman, showing the christians how wonderful the relationship is in islam with spouses. How we take our duties seriously with love, respect and kindness.

Allah(swt) is all wise. Allahu Alam. Thanks again for the great post. Jazzaka Allahu Kheiran

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« Reply #2 on: Dec 15, 2009 02:57 PM »

Walaikum salam wrt wb,


All praise be to Allah.  Actually, in the past Catholics were not allowed to marry outside the church, but the Church fathers bypass this law by granting "special dispensations" to those who request it.  Who granted them this authority?  Rather, they shape to religion to whatever fits their whims and desires.  

Allah Most High says:

“And say not concerning that which your tongues put forth falsely: ‘This is lawful and this is forbidden,’ so as to invent lies against Allaah. Verily, those who invent lies against Allaah will never prosper.” [al-Nahl 16:116]

Islam is not based on the whims and desires and fancies of the people, it is based on what Allah has revealed.



May Allah continue to guide you sister, and help you remove all of the false Christian ideas that you were taught, and complete your acceptance of Islam and increase you in knowledge.


And Allah knows best.

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