I actually came across something like this in Ghazzali's Book on the etiquettes of marriage. http://www.ghazali.org/works/marriage.htm
I was absolutely shocked when I read it. I'd always seen marriage as a strong sunnah of the Prophet (SAW), to the extent that he even rebuked his companions for refusing to marry, (to not sleep and to continuously fast).
Abu Sulayman al-Darani48 was asked about marriage, and he said, “To abstain is better than to endure them [women], and to endure them is better than to suffer hellfire.” He also said, “The single man will find in the pleasures of work and in the emptiness (faragh) of the heart that which the family man cannot find.” He once said, “I have not seen any of our companions who married and was able to retain firmly his first rank (martabah).”49 He also said, “He who seeks the following three is inclined toward the world: he who seeks a living, or who marries a woman, or who transcribes a hadith.”
However, I still see marriage as one of the best things that a Muslim man can do. Every action of yours is magnified in the resulting hasanat (if done properly), and you receive blessing for feeding/taking care of/entertaining your wife and kids... and this is an opportunity to please Rasul'Allah on the day of judgment when he will look with pride at the numbers of the people in his Ummah.
It transforms fitnah into sadaqah (yes, even sex!).
Most of us cannot go wrong in getting married (to the right person insha'Allah).. however, those who cannot get married should take solace in the fact that in the next world, everyone will have companions. There are no single people in the Gardens...
May Almighty Allah give those of us who are married sakina in their homes, and wonderful children who follow the path of Islam with taqwa, and He make those of who are not married among those who find their soul-mates (amen).