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« on: May 07, 2010 01:02 AM »


Assalamu alikom,

I know my msg shouldn't be mentioned here ..
because u re all really good muslims having strong iman (mashaa Allah, may Allah swt raise your eman & mine too ..

Ameeen),

& i feel i'm a bad one all the time, all my efforts, thoughts, ideas goes for non-sense, I even have bad thoughts

about iman doing much efforts to keep them away. Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad

Lately, I've been concerned with someone, i really love him,but i know he'll never propose for marriage.
Anyway, i try to stop communicating with him (academic-work relationship), but sometimes i had to for work purpose,

& here i'am thinking of him all the time, now my Iman is just a secondary concern, i even couldn't stop some

hypocritical thoughts to gain his admiration (may Allah forgive meeeeeeee).


I feel helpless & desperate .. Am i really a bad girl Sad
I've been praised well in a kind family .. my Iman was so tight in the past ..


Asking for your duaa,

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« Reply #1 on: May 07, 2010 04:29 AM »

salaam hun

The fact that you are worried about your iman proves you  are not a 'bad girl' I am not sure why you think your message should not be on here. It is good sometimes to let your heart out and get help when you need it then to have all that inside of you and trouble you.

Your situation is understandable. Love can do that to you, it affects the brain. I think there was a scientific study done on this. It is not always healthy though. Just remember you are only slave to Allah swt and to make someone above that is like you are being a slave to that. Just constantly remind yourself.

You said you know he will never propose for marriage. We never know about anything. Can you tell your parents there is a good guy you like and ask them to talk to his parents? Everyone's parents are different so I don't know how that will work out for you.
Depending on both of you, you can be direct with the guy himself, or ask him something like what he thinks of you. If he is interested then ask him if he can propose because you don't want to have a wrong relationship.
If he makes it clear he doesn't like you, you are going to have to move on and think it best as you would want someone who likes you for a good marriage to happen. You are going to have to pray a lot and ask Allah swt to give you strength and cut as much communication with him as you can.


May Allah swt give you strength, and happiness

love

your sis
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« Reply #2 on: May 11, 2010 02:11 AM »

Salaam sys..

Thanks for your kind advise & duaa,
this guy will never propose for marriage .. i'm sure about it for some reason,
& that's why i hate myself .. coz i know we'll never get married,
yet i can't control my feelings.

I'll try keep myself away as possible,
Asking ya all for duaa ..

I hope i'm not ended like this one  Sad

  وَاتْلُ عَلَيْهِم نَبَأَ الَّذِي آتَيْنَاهُ آيَاتِنَا فَانْسَلَخَ مِنْهَا فَأَتْبَعَهُ الشَّيْطَانُ فَكَانَ مِنَ الغَاوِينَ، وَلَوْ شِئْنَا لَرَفَعْنَاهُ بِهَا وَلَكِنَّهُ أَخْلَدَ إِلى الأَرْضِ وَاتـَّــبَعَ هَوَاهُ، فَمَثَلُهُ كَمَثَلِ الكَلْبِ إِنْ تَحْمِلْ عَلَيْهِ يَلْهَثْ أَوْ تَتْرُكْهُ يَلْهَث ذَّلِكَ مَثَلُ القَوْمِ الَّذيِنَ كَذَّبُوا بِآياتِنَا فَاقْصُصِ القَصَصَ لَعَلَّهُم يَتَفَكَّرُونَ سَاءَ مَثَلاً القَوْمُ الَّذِينَ كَذَّبُوا بِآياتِنَا وَأَنْفُسَهُمْ كَانُوا يَظْلِمُونَ

surah al-Aaraaf (7), verses (175-177)

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« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2010 02:24 AM »

Sister,

Power of prayers and patience is very strong. Everything is conquered with time. Be positive, have faith and stick to what is right over what is wrong. Inshallah, you will suceed and be happy. May Allah give you strength, patience and happiness.

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