as salaam o aley kum everyone.....!
i have come to madina in such a long time that most u must have forgotten my name by now
.....anyways i tend to resort here for peace when my mind is tumbling out of sense and i am so greatful to allahtala that I have a computer and an internet connection and a website where i could go and share and ease off my burden
now it goes like this:
i ahve a wonderful husband. He loves me. I love him.
I obey most of the things he says (major issues). I fight with him. He fights with me.
We hurt each other. I tend to say some hard things. i tend to be disobedient in certain small aspects. then it gets over in due time. We love each other agin and life goes on beautiful
....Alhamdullilah! Then yesterday i was reading about a muslim wife accurate behaviour towards her husband. It was in some some aspects so very very much different from my behavoiur
so i decided to strart looking at him in a new light, according to the following hadeeth (not accurate words just the essence): "if u knew the rights ur husbands have over you, you would wipe the dust of his feet with your face" and another hadeeth "be careful how u treat ur husband for he is ur hell and he is your heaven". So there i got going accordingly.....started giving him the Honour and Respect, and Stature and ALAS ALAS ALAS at that very moment he ceased to be my friend
. I am thankful to allahtala for giving me the hidayat of appropriate behavoiur but at teh same time iam so distressed at teh changed equation we now have. There is nothing different from his side ....its alll in my own mind but bt the new role is so tough......ANY opinions anybody