I totally understand Sis Jannah. I would recommend watching our parents generation's films! I love them! The songs, the stories, so much more noble and humble. Also, the actresses didn't need to show skin or even have on that much makeup (well, black and white, I guess we can't tell) to look beautiful - they were classic beauties in those days.
One of my best friends here, she's from Angola and she LOVES Bollywood (as you said, loved all the world over) and I brought her two DVD's to watch - Awara and Umrao Jaan. Both classics. I love Tere Mere Sapne (we have this and several other old films on DVD that my Amma has collected over the years, when she or I have made trips to cities with Asian districts - like Jackson Heights in NYC for example or Chicago or LA), with Mumtaz - as that is about being a doctor and one's principles and how the outside world changed him (Dev Anand).
Yeah, I guess you'll have to stick to your Jane Austen for now.
I do sympathize you, but I guess I just have lower standards - as sometimes, I just need to watch something somewhat entertaining to pass the time or unwind. As for learning some lessons and the like, yeah the old ones are waaaay better.
Yes, as for the sleeping around and the related scenes, it does take away from the tastefulness - it was better when the two lovers would be about to kiss as they were running around trees and then the camera would cut away or the girl would run away, etc. That might sound funny (as Azhar Usman loves to mention in his act) but it was sweeter and much more romantic than just," wham bham thank you m'aam" (sorry if that's crude, but I'm sure you've heard that phrase before).
Anyways, hope you find a more enjoyable source of meaningful entertainment soon.