whoa...I didn't know about the domestic abuse. And for that I take my advice back sis, I've no idea how those things work. What I said was how men operate in general, your's is a special situation so I can't comment on that.
Where I went to high school, it had just eleven muslims and I was the only one in my class, and there were two girls in the other section. So naturally we had a lot in common and that would get us talking quite often, with no negative intentions of course. The moment you see a muslim where you don't expect to see one or where there are very few, you feel the urge to connect based on that common ground. That's what I thought might've happened in your case (assuming you live in the west). But I didn't know you had special circumstances. I am sorry